Male Rights to Custody in Divorce
The emotional strain often leads men to sacrifice their rights without realizing it. A family law attorney prevents this from happening.

The men’s rights movement focuses on discrimination, oppression, and disadvantages faced by the male gender. This movement is a subset of the men’s movement that began in the 1970s. Considered a countermovement to feminism, it has affected several areas of the legal system including parenting and family law.

Followers of this movement believe that these two areas of the law are discriminatory against men. In the United States, groups in this movement began rallying in opposition to divorce reform and child custody issues during the 1960s. They claimed that divorce and family laws favor females and violate the individual rights of a man to equal protection. Opponents claim that these groups downplay the biases faced by women that resulted in protective laws in these areas.

Whether a man considers himself a member of this movement or is simply trying to ensure the most positive outcome of a divorce, a family lawyer can help. There is no disputing that a divorce affects both spouses. Most men are not well-versed in divorce laws, making it important for them to have experienced legal representation.

Divorce laws vary by state and in states that recognize fault as a ground for divorce, men may pay a steep emotional and monetary price. Even in no fault states divorce can be an emotional and even traumatic event for the male spouse. It can be difficult to make rational decisions when faced with the dissolution of the family unit. The emotional strain often leads men to sacrifice their rights without realizing it. A family law attorney prevents this from happening.

Despite laws to the contrary, a father’s rights in divorce are often disregarded. A male parent may not have the legal expertise to fight for custody of his children. Some men wind up paying far more child support than they should. This can result in financial distress that impacts not only the male parents but also the futures of their children.

The only person acting in the best interests of a man during a divorce is himself. If he does not feel qualified to fight for a fair outcome then he should retain an attorney who specializes in family law. This type of lawyer protects the rights of men to ensure that these rights are not violated during the divorce process. With a lawyer providing male and father’s rights help, men can minimize the undesirable affects of divorce.

10 thoughts on “Divorce Effects on Male Rights”

  1. My son has had mental issues in he past, but is following treatment program.
    His wife has filed for divorce, and is using his mental condition to keep his children away. He has no history of abuse , and he has been a great father.
    What should e do?

  2. Dallas Hazlewood

    I know the answer is to hire a lawyer but i have been going thru this for 5 yrs now. I’ve been bankrupted, had to sell most of my belongings to just make it another week. I’ve been homeless now since Jan. 2020. I’ve been unemployed since sept. 2019. I have a car but no finical abilities to get tags and insurance. I can’t and wont just keep letting the courts do this to me. I need a voice and a platform to make the news media and courts hear us.

    1. This is tough. When you can’t appear in court with a lawyer, many times a judge ends up getting annoyed with the person that is appearing in front of them not following the proper rules and procedures (because you’re not a lawyer, obviously). As far as getting things to the media – tough to do. Believe me when I tell you that the craziest things that people think “never happen” actually happen daily in divorce courtrooms (or monthly at the least). So media attention will be difficult to get, and probably won’t sway a judge anyways unless there is real, actual judicial malfeasance involved (and not just “the judge hates me and rules against me every time” – that is not enough).
      If you can’t afford a lawyer, try to seek legal assistance through a legal aid clinic from the bar association in your city/county/state and even look into if any local law schools offer professors to get involved with their students to watch proceedings – this happens at times too.
      Best of luck!

  3. Im in deep. The divorce is done and said. She played me a fool till the end. She slapped a ppo on me under false information. And then my divorce papers come the same week with my parenting rights being suspended. I need help. It’s been 8 months since I seen my kids or talked to them. Everything happened so fast. I just went back to work. Im living with a friend. Im broke. Having to still pay child support. Wich I’m falling behind in also.

    1. That’s rough. But it happens a lot. I wish there was a simple solution, and not knowing your situation, I can tell you there is not an easy fix.
      But you need a lawyer who will fight for you. And for that, you need some money – fast. I don’t know what you are capable of, but get a 2nd and 3rd job. Deliver pizzas in the evenings, weekends, etc. Get rid of every possible bill (ie. you do not need a car payment, a $1,200 car will work fine for now – its temporary), and save, save, save. Get at least $1000 together this month, and hire an attorney. Get a payment plan, most lawyers will work that out with you, but don’t walk in with $500 and expect to pay a couple hundred a month, that won’t get you anything. You need to bust it and things will work out, eventually. Don;t give up fighting for your family – it will only last this way for a short time and you’ll have the rest of your life with your family!

      You can do this – stay positive, focused, and go make it happen!

      1. Michael Mabry

        I am a father of 5. I have 2 adults and 3 children under 18 years of age. I have a 14, 12, and 8 year old from a later marriage. This marriage ended in divorce in 2012. I pay $2100.00 monthly in child support. I’ve attempted to get the amount modified but have been told the amount is correct. I’m forced at 50 years of age to work like I’m in my 20’s. I also was forced to turn over my vehicle, half of my 401k, in addition to the monthly, $2100.00. I was also told I entitled to any help purchasing a new car or a percentage of her 401k for the years we were married.

        Every since our divorce I’ve been allowed to claim 1 child twice. She claims all 3 children every year.

        I need to know if I have any rights as a father considering I pay child support and always have since the divorce? It seems like an abuse of power of the system by allowing one parent to have such an advantage financially.

        If it’s possible, what can I do to change this claiming on taxes issue?

  4. Becky Daugherry

    My son has lost his visitation from false accusations and being forced to plead to charges in order to not get charged with more serious felonies. He began drinking and his wife was using cocaine and dhs took the kids. After 6 months, they gave the Kuhn’s back to the mom and ordered more counseling with the boys, but she doesn’t show up with them and court is always continued. It’s now been 2 years.

  5. Terence Russell

    I was misrepresented by a lawyer that was disbarred and lost everything in divorce. What can I do to rectify my situation especially when my ex has different men in and out of my child’s life and leaving him alone to go on dates and he’s 7.

  6. IN NOVEMBE I LEFT MY WIFE BECAUSE I WENT TO A FOOTBALL GAME AND CAME BACK IN TOWN SHE HAD STOLE MONEY AND CAR & RANNED OFF WITH HER EX! IN JANUARY WE WERE MAKING UP TRYING TO MAKE IT WORK WHEN SHE BECAME PREGNANT! WE STILL TRY TO WORK IT OUT AND I FIND OUT SHE IS STILL CHEATING BUT NOW SHE IS PREGNANT AND IT IS A POSSIBILITY THEY ARE MINE…SHE SAYS THEY (TWINS)ARE MINE! BUT SHE WONT ALLOW ME TO GO ON DOCTORS VISITS TRYING TO CHANGE NAMES OF THE KIDS WE AGREED ON BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO BE WITH HER!! ALL I WANT IS ALL MY LEGAL RIGHTS AND FOR MY SON TO BE NAMED AFTER ME…HIS FATHER! I NEED HELP NOW!

  7. I have had four lawyers. All saying the same thing. ‘You have to go along to get along’. To me this comment indicates I am guilty of some sort of crime. Personally I take umbrage with the phrases ‘non-custodial parent, obligor, and defendant’. I have committed no crime, owe no one anything and did not leave my children of my own free will. They were taken from me and if I knew the law at the time I’d have fought tooth and nail to get them back, not yet knowing I could not win a rigged fight. Almost five years later I see my kids four days a month and play no role in their upbringing. My not yet ex is a narcissist and a sociopath, however, as she fits into the Title IV-D narrative perfectly there is no reason or willingness on behalf of the Northampton County PA family court system to comply with my requests for more equal distribution of parenting time with my children. Every hour more I have with them is less that they steal from the Social Security fund. This has to stop. Title IV-D is illegal and violates multiple Constitutional rights. My visits to the court have been met with derision, bullying and dismissal. Not one time have I gone before the ‘custody master’ who, truly has no legal right to judge on my child custody at all and, like the entire family court system should have to recuse themselves from the proceedings as they are paid with the illegal Title IV-D funds that are stolen from Social Security and the Federal government, but more importantly from citizens that will count on that money in their retirement years. Sadly, at the current rate, it will not be there for them. The upside to that being that it won’t be there for Title IV-D either. Title IV-D has to be ended now. 50/50 custody has to be the standard ruling until either parent is deemed unable or unwilling to fulfill such an obligation. Anything less should be illegal and should subject to those who sit in judgement on such issues to the same punishments as criminals as that is what they are. When judges start going to jail then maybe the laws will be followed and innocent people will not be exploited for fiscal gain which is all that it is. This isn’t about the children. This is about money and it needs to stop.

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