Can an Adoption be Reversed?
Contrary to what some may believe, there are ways in which a finalized adoption can be reversed. Once an adoption has been finalized, if one party wants to reverse the adoption, he or she needs to submit a petition to the court – this is often done by either the child’s birth parents or the child’s adoptive parents. While a reversal is possible, the laws regarding this process are very strict. Once the adoption has been reversed, the child’s birth certificate is changed to reflect its original state before the adoption.
Which Parties Can Reverse an Adoption?
There are three parties in an adoption situation who can reverse a finalized adoption, and they include the following:
The Child’s Birth Parents – If the child’s birth parents want to reverse an adoption and regain their parental rights, the adoptive parents need to give consent for the reversal. In some U.S. states, however, even if consent is given by the adoptive parents, the birth parents’ parental rights cannot be restored.
The Child’s Adoptive Parents – In the rarer case that the child’s adoptive parents want to reverse the adoption, they need to prove to the court that dissolving the adoption is within the child’s best interests. This may occur if the child and the adoptive parents have not been able to form a positive relationship.
The Child – There are several circumstances where a child may wish to have his or her adoption reversed. In some cases, the child wants to be emancipated from his or her adoptive parents, but more often, a child reversing his or her adoption happens later in life due to failed relationships with his or her adoptive parents.
When Can Consent to an Adoption be Reversed?
When a party consents to an adoption, the petition for adoption needs to be clear and concise for it to be finalized. There are certain situations, however, where consent given for an adoption can be revoked even after it has been finalized. Those situations include the following:
Best Interests of the Child – When a child is adopted but the court finds the child would better benefit from having the adoption revoked, it will grant the revocation.
Fraud or Duress – If consent for adoption was given fraudulently or while the consenting party was under duress, the consent is automatically considered null and void.
Timeframe of Refusal – There is a small window of time available for birth parents to change their minds about giving consent for their child’s adoption.
Hello,
My daughter is currently 4-years-old and in good health, and as well as her biological parents ( no drug problems or law issues ever). We, the biological parents, signed our daughter to the biological father’s parents because they told us it was the only way to tap into the grandfather’s social security money. Now, they are waving our parental rights into our faces and shutting us out of all decisions. So, we are wanting to reverse this “adoption” because this was not what we thought things would be like. There was no lawyer in the process and we felt manipulated to sign papers for the “better good.” Can we as the biological parents challenge the documents? To take partial, if not all, custody so that we can know what they are planning for her future? We are in Florida and cannot locate the appropriate information to the answers we are looking for. Please and thank you so much for your time.
We are scared they will eventually deny us visitations to see her.
There are multiple concerns here. First of all, it sounds like there could be some serious issues with using the adoption process to somehow tap into social security – not knowing criminal law (so a criminal attorney should be contacted), this sounds like it could put you in trouble.
When you give a child up for adoption, the law essentially treats it like this: that is no longer your child. It never was your child. It is the adoptive parents child. With exception, this is the point of adoption.
If there was supposed to be some type of visitation after adoption that was written into the papers, that could be a valid reason for going back to court to enforce.
Without additional details, it is hard to tell what chance you have of this (it is NEVER easy).
Reach out for a free consultation and see if providing additional details can help! Best of luck.
I have a friend who agreed to let her brother and sister in law adopt her son through kinship adoption in Indiana. Mom was probably dealing with PPD when she made this choice. After a lengthy labor, AP’s lawyer told her baby could not be released from the hospital unless she signed relinquishment papers. She was tired and foggy, so signed. She had a 2 week window to change her mind. Expressed doubts to AP within that window and full-blown changed her mind a few days past its expiration. She feels she was coerced into signing the relinquishment papers and APs set the time limit for reversal for two weeks knowing she would likely regret her decision. Does she have a case? What should she do? Things have gotten ugly with the family and she and her husband want their child back.
I have a parent who I am supporting who adopted a child 3 years ago. He is now 14. The past 6 months he has been in a group home due to harming the animals in the home and trying to kill the animals. Mother is scared and has tried BX health services for the child and has tried everything offered to her by her BX helath team and nothing is working. She is scared of the child and fears for herself, her other child and her animals. Other family members of the adopted child have also threatened mom as well. Is this enough to get an adoption reversal without mom losing her Fingerprint card or having charges brought up against her by DCS?
There is no set line in the sand where you can do something and not have any repercussions, so any answer would be a guess, unfortunately. It sounds like there are some very serious issues going on here and that the parent who adopted the child shouldn’t have done so being that she can’t even support herself – unless this is something recent, her being unable to take care of herself?
I’d talk to someone local, this stuff is state dependent, and this situation sounds like there is a lot going on that plays into what is best for the family and for this child.
I was adopted from my grandparents but my grandmother wants to reverse it and give me back to my mom before she passes cause she’s getting older. If they are in agreement and I agree as an adult what is the process. [Grandfather passed] thank you
Since you are an adult, you likely need a handful of signatures to make this happen. Reach out to get started with an attorney that can help, and best of luck.
Can I get a closed adoption overturned to an open one? Or have my child back ? After it’s been nearly 6 years? Thank you
This is where there’s probably not much luck. Ordinarily, these can be changed the parents who adopted are involved in the process or where everyone knows everyone. In your case, the law was meant to provide protection by being closed, so the chances of this are slim to none. If there is a serious reason, such as knowing who the people are and there are issues with them, maybe.
All these things depend on your state as well. Reach out, talk to someone local and you might be able to get some more answers!
My name is Bianca I am 17 years old, and I have been adopted for a year and a half and things with my adopted family really have not been working out we don’t have the best relationship. And I really want to live with my biological aunt who is willing to take me in, I just don’t know how to go about any of this.
Your situation sounds tough, I can’t imagine. But remember that unless there is a serious reason, like abuse, many of these don’t end up being reversed unless all parties agree (and even then, there can be some issues). Also keep in mind that when an adoptive situation first starts, relatives are the first people contacted, which likely happened a couple years ago, at least. Now this relative is willing to take you in. It might be she is in a better position in life now to take you in, but the courts could be suspicious as to her motives.
I would seek some therapy and ask your adoptive parents to be involved in it as well, since it sounds like that might be the best situation at this stage, being that you are already 17-years old. You sound strong, smart, and mature. Get involved in therapeutic sessions, even if through school, and let that process begin first. Then, after working with a counselor, you will be in a better position to work through any issues that might need to be addressed, like discussing with your parents and your aunt.
Best of luck. I hope that all works out well for you and that you know that people care about you and your situation.
Adoptees have no rights. Even when you are 65 and all 4 parents are dead (adopted and birth). You won’t get anywhere in California if you have a sealed adoption. Isn’t it amazing how 4 adults got to choose the fate of my life and I got no say so in the matter?
I was born on July 4, 1957. My birth mother stayed at the Florence Crittenton Home for Unwed Mothers in Lincoln Heights, CA. The adoption took place through the County of Los Angeles, CA. I just spent $5K to hire a Private Investigator to find my birth family. He did. The problem is – my birth mother is dead and there isn’t anyone around anymore that can fill me in about her. The County of Los Angeles won’t give me a copy of my adoption folder. How do I go about getting it? There are observations in my non-ID report that the workers at the Florence Crittenton Home for Unwed Mothers made about my mother. Everything about my birth mother is in that folder. That folder is the closest I will ever get to know my birth mother.
Those maternity homes were fraudulent and sinister and if nothing else, each woman was at least met with coercion in mind. In fact, one of their coercion tactics showed up in my Non-ID report. So, I want that folder. I will get that folder. Do you have any thoughts on how to help me? Can I get a really good attorney and take the County of Los Angeles on? I think they won’t release the folders because it is a cover-up. They lied. I have caught the County of Los Angeles in lies. They lied to my adopted parents. My adopted parents wanted a baby with college-educated birth parents. And Poof – Just like that my birth parents had college educations. MY BIRTH PARENTS WERE NOT COLLEGE-EDUCATED. Dear Lord, my birth father graduated from a 1 room schoolhouse in Broken Bow, OK. Adoptees have DNA now. Some of us can hire Private Investigators. We have found our birth families and have busted the ‘Adoption Social Workers’ in all their lies. All those years they thought we would NEVER FIND OUT. The jig is up.
The County of Los Angeles is smug to adoptees when you call them. They can know who your parents are – but you can’t know – They treat adoptees with no respect. Second-class citizens. My Non-ID report was filled with errors. They even got the medical information wrong.
You know, I’ve had a good life. I used to encourage people to adopt. But not after reading books on what goes on in the adoption industry. Because of that damn maternity home, my birth mother wasn’t able to hold me. That is so messed up.
What kind of attorney should I look for in Los Angeles? It’s a definite cover-up. Everyone is dead that could be hurt by my existence. If everyone is dead, WHAT ON EARTH IS IN THAT FOLDER THAT THEY DO NOT WANT ME TO SEE????? They say I can only get a court order for my birth certificate or for my medical records only.
Wow. This is quite a story – and at least one that has a happy ending with you having lived a good life so thus far. I don’t doubt that the majority of people in America view government bureaucracies as potentially corrupt on a large scale, so what you allege is shocking – but not surprising.
Not knowing how you could go about looking for the information you seek, I can’t give you much better of a starting place than what you’ve already done- it sounds like you have put in quite a bit of legwork already and expended a decent amount of money in the process.
The best I can do is to try and find someone that has gone through a similar experience and find out what they did – hopefully someone reading this will have done so.
While not providing any endorsement of this websites services, here is a link. No idea who this is, so proceed at your won risk- just found on a google search: https://adoptionsearcher.com/faq/can-california-closed-adoption-records-be-unsealed/
Best of luck!
You can go after 18
On February 5th 2021, my mother wrote a falsely affidavit with false contact phone numbers and falsely resistance address on my part to be served in a formal manner. I was only served formally with the restraining order and was removed she gain access to my child. My daughter which was 2.5 years at the time and I only lived at my mother’s new address for 2 months. My mother was gone not present 2/3 of 2020 while we lived in Fortbend County. She has had and kept my daughter’s social security card I have never once seen it. My daughter is so emotionally abused and confused. My mother has so detrimental to my daughter. I have lived in Houston since I was served the restraining order. No pro Bono will look at my case twice. How do I file on my behave before the schedule date my Mom is trying to have me early termination of my parental rights? I have no chance to defend myself or defend my daughter.
This sounds like a case that is going to be difficult for an attorney, let alone if you are trying to do it yourself. Your best plan is to try and work out a payment arrangement on a retainer because that is likely the only way to get the results that you deserve – this is not an easy case at all. No matter what, get something on file ASAP, even if it’s not correct, the judge will hopefully let you have time to amend the filing and buy you some more time to get something together for an attorney.
I know someone who adopted a pair of siblings from their drug addicted biological parents when the state stepped in to remove the children. The eldest sibling has since been placed in a group home due to becoming physically abusive towards the adoptive parents, and the youngest sibling is on the same path. The family is unable to form a positive bond with the child and vice versa, but don’t know what steps to take in order to bring the situation to an end before it escalates too far.
Can an adult who was adopted over 50 years ago have their adoption annulled or “vacated”? The adoptee has their original birth certificate and is estranged from the female adopter. Male adopter is deceased. The female adopter has already written the adult adoptee in question out of her will, so there are no inheritance issues in play. If the female adopter dies, is it possible for the adult adoptee to do this on their own? After all, they gave no consent to this original contract.
Thank you.
This is a highly state specific issue and also, exceedingly rare. If inheritance issues are not at play here, you might want to ask what the point is to begin with. Whether it is worth the hassle and cost to move forward on something like this. But if there are good reasons beyond some type of emotional based reason only, there’s no reason it can’t be pursued. Speak with one of our local attorneys and with some more detail, hopefully you can get the help you’re looking for.
This is my question too and it is a perfectly valid question and not just “some emotional reason”. My reason would be based on principal and about cutting ties to the government’s adoption regulations, more-so than trying to reestablish biological links or poor relationships with adopters. I would prefer to cancel my relationship with the government and its nonsense surrounding adoption, thanks.
so was 24 years old. my son and i had moved into the home of the people who had adopted my birth siblings who where taken back when i was 7 years old, i was left with our bio fam. anyways my son and i move in with them, i had developed a drug issue before moving in and wanted help to get clean so i opened up to them… they treated me very loving and said they wanted to adopt me as ana adult and said that i could then go to a treatment center under their insuranance, so that beings said they adopted me a month before i was turning 25. after my adoption they then told me in order for me to go to the treatment center i needed to sign some paperwork for saying they could care or my son. i signed it and then they kicked me out of their home, i did go to treatment but came home early due to health issues, i asked to move back in and said they could test me anytime and they said no and kept my son from me… my question can i get my adoptiion reversed ? and if so how can i still get my son back any help is greatly appreciated
I am so sorry to hear that that happened! I wish I could help you but I can’t. I just wanted to say that everything is going to be okay and I am praying for you.
My wife and I are raising two adopted children. They came to us originally from the NC foster care system. We were foster parents at the time. The youngest is a boy and came directly from birth to our home. He was two day’s old. He has high functioning Autism and we have learned over the years how to handle most situations with him. He is now 8 years old and a sweet little boy. His biological sister was placed with us for adoption too because they wanted the siblings to stay together. She was 18 months old when she came to our family. As the girl grew we noticed major red flags. She began to destroy everything we gave her. Her room began to look like an institution. She started urinating on everything in her room and sometimes playing with feces. She is a professional at lying and she will do it for no reason. After several years, I came to the conclusion that she was most likely a RAD child. She is nearing 10 years old and continues to cause extreme chaos in the family and at school. She will not stop urinating all over everything, saying she like the smell. We recently threw out the rest of her toys that were soaked in urine. She spends most of her time at hie in her room because of daily consequences and my wife doesn’t want her on the furniture. I’m personally at my wits end. We’ve taken her to therapists. She is on various adhd medications. Her pastor from our church has spent hours talking with us. We’ve prayed and prayed. This morning when my wife carried both of the children to school, the girl didn’t bathe, and she smelled horrible. She brought her back home and cleaned her up before carrying her back to school. With all that said, there is much more to the story. She steals, hurts animals, is fascinated with trash and even sneaks home other people’s medical waste. (Dirty bandages) Consequences never yield results. We believe in spanking as it is biblical. Doesn’t phase her at one bit. It seems as if the child has no conscience whatsoever. Unless a miracle happens, I believe things will get worse as she enters her teens. Thing may likely get dangerous. At what point will we say, enough is enough? The whole family is affected on a daily basis. We are nearing our sixties and my better half is exhausted with all this. As the primary caregiver, she takes the brunt of the storm.
Thanks for listening y’all!
There is a ministry in Arizona they can help you with your child. The name of the Ministry is Hardcore Ministry. The pastors name is Michael Smith. They are in Phoenix. When you pray for the child make sure to pray for The Lord to cut the soulties and trauma she and your other child endured as a baby. God will bring you through this.
I am going through the same exact situation as you. We adopted my nephew and have had him since he was 4 months old. He’s now almost 7 and does these similar things and also on ADHD meds and NOTHING works. I have 5 other biological children who are getting hurt by him and it’s becoming unbearable. When do we say enough is enough? I’m a full time hospice nurse in school for my NP and dealing with this on top of everything is nearly impossible. I feel for you and I know exactly what you are going through. Praying for your family.
6 years ago my father and aunt convinced me to voluntarily sign my rights over so she could adopt my twin 5 year old daughters. They promised me I would always be their mom, we would raise them together, and I would always be a part of their lives. Before we even got out of the courthouse after I signed my rights over, she told me I could see them one more time to tell them why I wouldn’t be seeing them anymore. An awkward meeting where with strangers telling them to call me by my name, and call my aunt mom, and the confusion in their eyes was the last time I ever saw them. She states reasons as though she is protecting them. At the time I signed my rights over I was clean and working toward reunification. I had a 2 brief relapses in those 6 years due to sheer hopelessness, but otherwise spent almost 5 of the 6 years clean and in a condition my daughters would have done well to know me in. I have a son now who is a year and a half, and allowed to see the girls when they are all at my dad’s. She refuses to move forward with her promises, the promises that legally I said on file in court we’re never made (have you been made any threats or promises, blah). But they were made. The social worker and my aunt were best friends and nothing was done to work toward reunification, although I had been clean and working hard for a year. My aunt wanted to keep my daughters, and they twisted the system and played dirty to make it happen, and on the outside they look like saints, and I look like a junkie who gave away her kids to a better life. Except I have been fully capable of giving them that life. Is there anything I can do?
There are steps that can be taken, but it is a difficult process. Many times, the reason that family is fighting you is because they think you will relapse again and have concern for the children – and there is clearly some amount of resentment and frustration towards you as well.
The best 1st step might be to try to establish parenting time / visitation first, and work a plan that expands on it over time and then move towards the adoption issue next. With some amount of history of great visits and everyone seeing you are good and safe, the entire situation might change for the better.
Same thing happened to me and my youngest 2 sons the government separated my family causing terrible life long emotional and mental health problems for my now 7 and 11 year old they were taken twice both times without jurisdiction they twist n turn things to get a check and social security for my babies please someone help put my kids together where they belong with me and there dad my husband and I r married have 3 older siblings in a huge loving happy home that’s incomplete without the baby brothers how can dcfs get away with kidnapping and tearing families apart without properly following federal and state laws someone help
This sounds like you need to get a serious lawyer involved ASAP. You are going to have to prove that you have a track record of being 100% perfect – there can be zero mistakes. Get in touch and make a call.
CPS is corrupt on EVERY level! Our Children are REVENUE to them! The state makes ZERO money if they go to family! There are NO incentives to REUNIFY bio family! CROOKS ON EVERY LEVEL!
CPS is corrupt on EVERY level! Our Children are REVENUE to them! The state makes ZERO money if they go to family! There are NO incentives to REUNIFY bio family! CROOKS ON EVERY LEVEL!
Last july i got my 4 bbys in system cps.. Knowin my own mother n sis turn on me for missunderstanding .i was in stage depression .anger.n loneliness that lead me into drugs use.. I got 1 separated for dumb reason n now with my mom.. The other 3 are with cousin that now wants to adopted them turn them against me .and lost my right recently.i still have one case pending with my daughter but i got clean and almost done with classes even tho i stared late i love my kids and wont give up on them for my mistake.i have been taking teraphy and still have hope on getting them back. What can i do to stop adoption
I am a 17-year-old female and if you can tell me if I can request an adoption reversal. The relationship is not their anymore, their has been a lot of drama as well its a long story but I would like to request an adoption reversal can I do that and if yes how do I do that?
Same here i have never developed a relationship with my adopted parents and i have been there for 6 years now and nothing has changed can you help me get an adoption reversal?
Getting a reversal on an adoption is a pretty big deal. In some cases, it is necessary because of abuse or some type of trauma inflicted by the adoptive parents. In many cases, getting a reversal as a young minor is extremely difficult if the primary situation is a lack of close bonding. That is not to say that a lack of bonding isn’t a very real, traumatic experience. But the threshold that the courts use for such a large undertaking as this would be, is typically quite high.
I hope you are able to work through these issues with the help of a therapist and if you are ever in a spot where actual real danger is involved, reach out to the proper authorities and keep yourself safe.
Long story short. My kids were taken by a judge after I left my current husband because I failed for marijuana. While in care my ex’s children reported sexual abuse by him. I was investigated; found to have NO knowledge. However, that prolonged cps involvement & I became pregnant. On aug 8 of 2017 I was told if my daughter was born while the others were in care(even this they were with my grandmother since day 2 of being in care) she would be taken, as well. My grandparents informed me there was NO way they could take a newborn && she would have to go to the state. But, if I signed over rights we would still continue working for reunification, so I moved && had my daughter 11/12/2017. I’d say approx when my daughter was 2 weeks old we came back && the big kids got to meet their sister. Since 2018 I have had the kids at least every other weekend, holiday break, COVID lockdowns.. all of it. I also have 1 of the 3 living with me full time for over a year. My grandmother is 71 && basically the only reason the 2 girls are kept there is because of the checks they bring in. There’s 4 adults living in their home && my kids have to beg for basic needs. The house is disgusting && she, nor anyone else that lives there are able to tend to the girls like they need to be. My grandfather passed away in may of 2017, so custody is only to my elderly grandmother. My oldest is 15, youngest is 8 && the child that lives with me is 11. I’ve lived in the same home for the past almost 4 years. && both older children want to live with me. My grandmother says she’s asking for a reversal of adoption in her will, but she promised that they wouldn’t live with her this long, so I don’t really believe it. I also want to add that she has beginning stages of dementia && has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars at good will && is now in full blown bankruptcy. My girls get no interaction at home && aren’t even taken school shopping at the least. So I want to file for a reversal myself, but I know once they get served they will cut off contact between me && the girls, so if I don’t have a good chance of the reversal, I’d rather not test my luck! But, they would be sooo much better here with my husband && I, && we also have 2 children of ours that have been just about daily interactions with their older sisters.
I also should add in my 15 year old is already planning her amancipation from my grandmother && I’ve had the 11 year old for over a year because my grandmother says she simply just can’t handle him. He is also in therapy && has been for over a year, while my older girls are denied therapy even tho it would be INCREDIBLY beneficial for them!
The process for your situation sounds very difficult. Because of the past incidents that led to you needing to make a random drop that came up positive for marijuana, you would need to likely show a long history of no longer using drugs or other intoxicating substances. Whatever incident led to the investigation where a failed drug test was ordered seems to be the main issue that forced your hand into setting up the adoption in the first place. Has that situation been corrected and shown that it won’t happen again (whatever it was)?
It sounds like what you need is a negotiated sit-down with grandma to discuss a path to revering things and you would likely need her and the kids on board with that plan. Expect that even if there is an agreement, there could likely be random drop-in’s by a child representative or state case worker to take a look at your house and talk to people living with you or even neighbors.
A local attorney could dig into some of the details further, which is needed, and might be able to provide you with a better understanding of the process and what your chances look like here. Keep rebuilding your relationship with the kids and keep everything 100% positive on your end and don’t give up – the kids will see you fighting for them and whether they admit it out loud to you, they will know you ae doing everything in your power to be with them.
My son is 21. He has autism and is fully dependent. My ex adopted him years ago. We divorces in 2018. My ex has had nothing to do with him since. He denies all responsibility for his as “our” son. I am very concerned what will happen when I pass on. I am leaving my son a substantial amount of money to financially support him when I’m gone. I’m afraid what my ex might try to do. Is there anyway I can have him removed as my son’s adoptive father?
There may be a few different avenues to take here since this is an extremely tricky and sensitive situation. Sometimes, leverage helps, like if he doesn’t want to financially support his child and thinks it is easier to sign papers and walk away entirely.
On top of that, I would certainly hope that you have this money set up in a trust. This would be what is known as a “special needs trust.” And if this has not been done yet, you should absolutely do that first – like right now. that will be the best and first way to protect his adoptive father from doing something with the money.
You may also want to try to set up a will that specifically gives someone else power over the care of your child. While the dad might challenge that in court one day should you pass first, it might be too much work for him to bother to do so – especially once he finds out that the money is all in a special needs trust and he won’t be able to touch even a single penny of it himself.
Good luck, this is a very difficult situation, but it can be done in many instances. But the first thing you need to do is designate someone else to be his guardian and get the trust set up right now – that will provide the first step in protection.
This all started because I have been asking him for help supporting our son. He has refused. Recently he retained a lawyer who served me with a cease and desist letter. She is refusing negotiation, mediation, and keeps telling me to file something with the courts. I requested that my ex dissolve his parentage since he obviously wants nothing to do with our son. His attorney said no, he refuses to dissolve the parentage. He wants nothing to do with our son, and I believe, he only wants whatever money he believes will come with our son when I pass. This is terrifying to me. I have contacted every attorney within a 100 mile radius to help, but they either dont respond, or they’re too busy to take on another case. I am panicking and I don’t know what to do.
In many states, an individual is unable to give up their parental rights for a variety of reasons, and if they refuse to do so, it is difficult to have them taken away without some sort of serious violation.
The best thing you can do is set up a special needs trust and make sure that someone you trust is in charge of the funds so that it benefits your child and not someone else. Every dollar would need to be accounted for and every action/inaction would be updated with the court into the future. Ensure that the person who will have control has funds to continue to have an attorney as well. That is all you can do. And that should not be something that probate / estate planning attorneys are too busy to deal with. You might just need to contact the correct type of lawyer is all.
Get a special needs trust, and pick the correct people (people you trust) to be in charge of it.
Yes, you can tpr him for abandonment. You have to petition it to the courts!
You can also have son emancipated from him. IF you’re divorced and son is emancipated from him you’re good as gold. This will be way easier than a tpr!
How does the emancipation angle work? My son is 21 but has Autism. He is unable to represent himself in court. He is afraid to speak in public. And he fears his legal father. I’m looking for the easiest least expensive way to manage this. I have been supporting my son solely since 2018. I don’t have a lot of money to spare.
😠 why did y’all delete my comment? Trying to find info about this?!
We didn’t delete any of your comments
My boyfriend adopted his ex wife’s child when she had an affair during their marriage. They are now divorced, he pays child support for a child he is not allowed to see or talk to or have a relationship with and it’s A LOT that he pays and the child is not biologically his. Can this be reversed??? Can anything be done about this??
I was adopted by my great grandparents when i was 3 and ever since then they have both been physically and mentally abusive towards me and only me bc my adoptive mom is racist and im half black and my siblings are white….i got in contact with my birth mom and asked her to get me out of where im living and after telling her everything they did to me and telling her i was suicidal and couldnt take the abuse anymore she told me to pack some bags and runaway to a church across the street and she would have someone there or she would be there to get me…my adoptive mom ended up calling the police and reported me as a runaway but my birth mom had already called the sergeant and told him everything that was happening and why i ran away…i ended up showing them all the marks and scars(which was my head being busted open by a belt buckle and being choked to the point i would black out on multiple occasions) The police got DCF involved and they talked to me and my adoptive parents and siblings, and even after the pictures they had of the marks and scars i was told i had to stay here and now DCF is on my adoptive parents side. I just dont know what to do now all i know is its going to get worse and i dont think i can wait till im 18 (3 more years). If anyone could give me some information on what i can do as a adopted child in the state of Florida it would be greatly appreciated.
Kathleen.. I hope you have gotten help and you are ok . Message me if you ever need someone to talk to I’m so sorry you are going through this ! I can’t do much but can be a friend . I also know a Good Social Worker in Florida as well , she and I are very close !!
Kathleen, you are so loved. I know I can’t help you from far but the best I can do is to tell you to do your best to send love to these abusive people and forgive as much as you can because we can change the world around us. Google the law of attraction and try doing some research on how to counteract abuse with love & maybe a bit of psychology. I can’t make any promises but learning this stuff has helped me be happy in a situation I wouldn’t wish in anyone. Best of luck beautiful child!! & you can email me too if you ever need a friend. See look you’ve got friends all over now:)) Xoxo heatherscottone@gmail.com
Emancipation is legal at 16. Do that. Then go live with your mother. Google how to do the emacipation.
When you are 16, you can petition the court for status as an emancipated minor if you have another home available and can demonstrate to the court that you can take care of yourself. You do not have to live with abuse just because FLA DCF is trying to force you to stay in the adoptive home of an unloving relative. Does your birth mother want you? Is she on DCF’s radar or caseload as an abuser herself? DCF has a well deserved reputation for favoring so called “family preservation” over the safety of children and are notoriously unsympathetic to teens.
I kind of get how you are feeling. I am not exactly in the same situation but I am being called out for being pansexual. I am fully out at school and my parents do not know. I am afraid that someone might tell my parents. I know that they will not accept me and was told specifically that I would never be accepted. I probably will not be kicked out since I am only 13 and my father is a police officer but, I am still scared that they might get an Adoption Reversal. I am mostly afraid of this because my parents got a closed adoption and I have not been able to meet my biological mother or father. I am currently living with my half brother and adoptive parents. (Same mom different dad for those of you who needed to know.) And do not even know MY fathers name and can barely remember my mothers. I do know from what my adoptive parents have told me that I have and older brother and sister. I am also afraid that if my adoptive parents get a Adoption Reversal that my biological family will not accept me and treat me badly. Because, like I said, I have never met my biological family. I also get a lot of hate at school for being part of the LGBTQ+ community. This builds up a ton of stress and has caused minor depression. I am scared that something bad may happen soon.
I was on my last chance with my kids and 5 days away from trial home visit being over, my worker came in and took my children when I was 100% sober and doing as asked and still removed them based upon a rumor. Didn’t have an actual emergency removal hearing for my youngest daughter because they know if we would have my kids would have been returned home. My rights were terminated and then my dad reached out for kinship placement and the worker claims to have called him and lied about that as well. They rushed the adoption and I’ve reached out, filed complaints and everything but haven’t been able to get anyone to listen or answer and they wouldn’t grant my dad an appeal hearing because apparently the adoption is not something he can appeal. I can’t afford to pay an attorney outright please. I’m considering representing myself in federal court or I need to find the correct way to petition the court to overturn or reverse the adoption.
I’m going through almost the same thing!! Pretty close anyhow, I gave my mother temporary custody so that i could get on my feet. Which i did, i was a year sober when they took my kids from my mother claiming she was financially unstable, she wasnt, she was a nurse and her fiance made 22 dollars an hour at his job!! The second court heating they removed them from my moms home, they lied and said my sons father was in prison, and he wasnt! They never even tried contacting him and they were giving his phone number AND his address even! The case worker was HORRID, pure EVIL. They took my babies for no reason at all, never any abuse. No neglect, nothing. They were very much taken care of. My mom had a nice home, they had there own bedroom and own beds and everything they needed and wanted plus more, and def loved very much, they could have gave me my kids back because I was a year sober, and had my own home, and everything, they were out to ruin me, they made me look so bad, they kicked me out of parenting classes because the lady that did my visits did the classes and she was in on it also, but she LIED on me and got me kicked out, so made me look bad, the social worker in my case, got a restraining order on me bc I posted a bible verse on MY facebook, so she only did that to make me look bad. They illegally stole MY babies, it’s now been 2 tears and I heard they were adopted and its closed adoption, without my consent or knowledge, nor there fathers knowledge or consent, I’m lost, I have no clue what to do anymore, when I call them, they tell me they are fine and that’s it, they wont tell me anything else, or give me any information about them, i really need help bringing my babies home where they belong, this never should have happened, they lied on me and my mother, and my poor babies were so scared, confused and didnt know what was going on, I just want then home with me! Please help.
My daughter had a similar problem with children services they were taken for minute reasons and they lied on and off through out the case right in front of us a committee meetings etc.. my daughter had been in an accident and was recovering when her rights hearing was about to happen they told her they would get a continuance but held it anyway and took her rights they claimed drugs but yet she never once had a bad UA, after a relapse after the kids were removed she is clean and sober for almost 2 years has all but one child back because he has been adopted by a family friend but she has since became very strict with us seeing him si we are seeking a reverse adoption. Hopefully it pays off its not far all are with mom but him
Wow my case is a little similar but very crucial I’m running out of time I finished all my services and hot my certificates and still willing to do another substance abuse program cuz I’m pregnant due in 8 weeks and she is already planning to take this one what can I do where do I start I’ve been doing do much since November 2029 trying to file complaints emailing people and due to covid 29 no response it’s awful depressing.scary lack of sleep .my days are empty
Girl I would leave the damn country. Flee to Canada and request asylum!! There’s ways to do it and Canada’s website has more info. This sounds like imminent danger to me… so I would check it out! At least it could buy you more time!
Leave the county and have baby in diffrent County. Don’t mention how the baby is doing to no one dss.. or hospital staff. Do not mention u loss custody at hospital or they call dss right away. I’d get an attorney but it’s best to ask for another case worker as well on the lost custody case
I’m going thru the same thing let me know if u find anyone to help you plz
Kimberly
Timberlen28@gmail.com
I’m going thru the same thing can u plz let me know if u find any help plz
Hi Nicole, my rights were terminated to my child after a court trial where my ineffective state appointed attorney missed the deadline for evidence. The judge didn’t even know I had had my son at the doctor 10 times in 11 weeks of life & that the doctor diagnosed him with colic instead of recognizing he had multiple fractures from his fathers secretive abuse. I appealed all the way up to the US. Supreme Court 3 different times with 3 different approaches including to reverse the eventual adoption. It is almost unheard of to succeed in reversing an adoption but I believe I will be successful this time based on fraud. I will tell you that now I think the key is deeper than the law. It sounds crazy but you have to train your mind to become happy because we attract what we fear. You must believe your child will be with you and make all your choices in life with that knowing. If you are ready I suggest you listen to Abraham Hicks on youtube. It might seem out there but it is channeled information from spirit guides who only want to help us. I feel in my bones that this inner work will help me get my son back. Never stop trying because your child will feel you. I hope you hear about my success because I’m making sure as many people in the world hear about it as possible through auditioning for a music tv show so I can get the public to help sway the courts. You can google my case to see how bad they made me look in order to railroad me to get my son adopted. In Re Zen T. in Connecticut court. I think you can find the appeals on line too for some ideas. They didn’t work but if you can brainstorm from them and train your mind too I know you can win!!! Let’s pray for each other!! Love & encouragement to you:)) -Heather
Oh heather you are on to something! I wish i could give you my info because I am going through something very similar. I have a hearing in a couple weeks based on the same issues with ineffective lawyer.
You had 10 days from the tpr to appeal and so you’ve lost your chance, unfortunately.
There is one thing I’ve seen being done.
habeas corpus.. its a type of trial..
I’ve seen it used after a failure to appeal. But you have to have a good reason you didn’t appeal. Like the ones I’ve seen were because the parent was prison. Or the lawyer failed to file on time. The fault has to be not your own in order to get this granted.
Also, you are entitled to representation in tpr hearings and all cps court hearings. You should have had a public defender. That includes one for any appeals you do. Except supreme court appeals. Those you are on your own..
I am not sure you can do a supreme court appeal if you haven’t done a state one. I don’t think so.
I am going through pretty much the same my boys are now 6 and 11 there older 2 brothers still live with me and they come stay alot but want me to have them so much trauma and hurt caused by wrongfully fraudulent adopting my babies to my family terminating my rights without ever telling me I just found out about the adoption period recently how do I reverse email me if u figure anything out I’m in Maryland but I’m thinking of federal court to but I’m scared to fail n it would crush mybabies
Hello i was just involved in an arguement with my mom and step dad who adopted my kids when i was in prison because i did not want them going to foster care. Once my mom got the call they didn’t want to do it until 6 months into it they went through with the adoption without my concent once they knew they could get paid for adoption of my boys
Here we are 3 years later when i met my husband in arizona not knowing i had a fighting chance to get my kids back. So i called my mom and came up with a rent agreement and came back to michigan last october. However over the coarse of the last 7 months weve acknowledged that they jace been verbally physically and emotionally abused by both my mom and step dad this whole time the whole story is long im just trying to get an answer of what can i do to get my kids back they get 1200.00 a month for them and have not bought them one pair of socks since we been back. They spend everything on card so we saved every receipt since we got here for everything that we bought them. And last night my step dad attacked my husband verbally and physically infront of the kids and my husband beat him up and the cops were even telling us that you need to get your kids back . what can i do?
Hi my adoptive mom kicked me out because I was depressed and seeking help I would like to know more info about this
I’m 14 years old turning 15 in 5 months, I got put into foster care in 2006 when I was only 6 months old and I officially got adopted in 2011 ever since I have been adopted nothing great has happened my adoptive mom left, neglected me and my sister mentally abused us, she used to leave us in the back yard with no food or water for long periods of time, she would get up and leave out of no where with no food in the house, she would tell me and my sister not to call her mom cause she wasn’t our mom, she would always just act like we weren’t her kids at all so at that point my adoptive dad went to court and got full custody of me and my sister but even then nothing was great with my adoptive dad and it got worse and worse over time me and my sister’s mental health got really bad to the point where we have tried to take our lives multiple times and I have been hospitalized 2 times because of it, I have seen my adoptive dad beat my sister down to the floor he has even hit me, I constantly hear him say he wants to beat the shit out of me. I have seen my “family” fall apart left and right which isn’t right I wanted to be adopted into a actual family not into this, this isn’t family. Just yesterday I was contemplating on taking my own life because I’m just so mentally drained because of being in this home and my adoptive dad at this point just thinks my mental health is an “excuse” I have been diagnosed with adhd and I am on meds for it and my dad just thinks its an excuse & I have also been diagnosed with depression but he took me off my meds because I didn’t want to go to therapy anymore. This household is very toxic and I just don’t want to be apart of this “family” anymore they don’t give a shit about me and my sister because were not “blood” this house has done nothing but fuck up my mental health & make it worse and worse. I do not want to live here anymore I do not want to be involved in this “family” I really want to reverse this adoption because me and my sister do not deserve this like I just want to have a family a real family, we shouldn’t have to be thinking about suicide at such a young age because of this toxic household and family please can someone help me, I really do want to get out of this house, I do want to reverse this adoption ASAP please please help me.
Get your shit-show adoptive parents to take you to your Dr, or any Dr, even your school nurse, and tell them how the adoptive have decided that THEY are now your Doctors and took you off your meds. You just need to get to a qualified Dr (no offense, I’m not sure if I’d recommend a teacher , unless you REALLY trust them and think they’d help.) or your schools nurse or social worker. Just get to a Dr, even a gynecologist (tell your asshole “ parents” you’re having really bad periods, cramps, whatever will make them most uncomfortable and tell the Dr honestly what is happening to you and your sister. That should help get the ball rolling. Good luck, you sweet peas in a pod. You are in my ptsteesdde
If you own a cell phone try to document everything your adoptive parents are doing. Call CPS and report your case. They should remove you and put you in a different home. I am a foster parent and adoptive parent and I would never treat my kids like this. Most of the foster parents I know are great parents who really love their kids. My son was in a great facility before we adopted him and even in a group home they have so many resources that would be much better than the abuse you are suffering now. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you find a different home soon. I also wanted to add a note that I was researching failed adoptions when I was on this site for a podcast. I would never want to give up my adoptive kids!
Hi Kimberly, has someone reached out to you to help you?
Hey sweetie im so sorry your going thru this. I also got my daughter taken after cps workers made up lie after lie about me making me out to be this monster that km not. Me and my daughter were very close and come to find out the adoptive parents, the cps worker, all of them were all friends and in on this together which is so illegal. They ruinend my life and now i am not able to have any contact with my little girl. Anyways i know this is hard on you but remember as soon as you turn 18 u can get out of there. Dont take your own life sweetheart u seem amazing and your life isnt worth taking over those scum bags. Have u tried calling cps yourself and told them whats going on at home ? U can me anonymous..i dont like those workers becuz they are to quick to take a child from there family but in your case it seems like it wouldnt be a bad idea .hold on a couple more years babygirl u got this.
Do you know who your real parents are?
I have had a termination of parental rights done on me. I know a lot of people who have. None of them wanted it. Very few went through over legitmate matters in which a child should be removed. You may have someone out there that never wanted to lose you and loves you very much. You may not. But from my experience you do! So maybe look for them.. because they’re not allowed to look for you.
My husband and I adopted 2 little boys from foster care. The oldest is not showing sexual behaviors towards the youngest. He was admitted at an inpatient mental health hospital and continues outpatient treatment. He continue to show this behavior. We have alarms on his doors. He recently told our youngest son to touch our granddaughter s “butts” . I have reached out to multiple resources and no help yet. We are considering reversing the adoption with our oldest son due to the fact we need to keep our youngest son and grandchildren safe. Do you think an adoption reversal would be possible in our case?
There was one time I’ve seen this. And only won on supreme court appeal. Even when people want to reverse the adoption (the people who adopted) more often than not the courts will not allow it… The one time it was granted, that I’ve seen, it was because the kids brother killed the kids mom in front of him and then he became violent and the adoptive parents feared for their lives.
Hi i need some advice, i live in the UK and i lost my son 4 years ago due to domestic abuse from his father and mental abuse from social service, they lied about alot on the case and even had a drug test come back incorrect. Its a long story but i shouldnt have lost my son. I wanna know if i can reverse the closed adoption, because i have a right to have my son, i also have a 1 year old little boy who also has the same father as my first(i didnt leave him after i lost my first son as i spiralled into a bad dark hole doing drugs and taking the beatings because i felt i deserved it) social are in my life till 14th of feb next yeat on a supervision order but i feel that if im a good enough parent for my young boy then i have a right to have my first boy he deserved to be with me and his brother, my life and mental health is so much more stable and i fleed to refuge to get away for ex and then move out the area to get away from my kids dad. My social worker now has done everything to keep my youngest with me and has helped me massivley, mylife is so different and im very proud of how far ive come and the women ive become but i feel with my first son they took the easiest option and removed him, whwn they could of worked with me like they are and have with my youngest, as the sitiations were both same so i wanna know can i fight for my son back from a closed adoption. Please i need help and advice i want my boy home i miss him and i havent seen him since he turned 1 ??
Me and my siblings were taken by dcfs in 2016 from my mother, at the time i was 11 I am now 15, my younger sister who was 6 and is now 11, by brother was 2 months now 4, and my older sister who was 16 and now 19. Everthing that led up to my adoption was completly illeagal, I was never told anything. I never got told anything about what was going on with my mom, i was supposed to be present at all the court dates and never was. My mom was also never told anything and was denied all legal rights. There is so many illegal things that went down. I am currently very unhappy where i am and i want to go back to my moms who is clean and stable doing very well, but the adoption has already been finalized in 2018. I need help and answers to do an adoption reversal, I am aware I will need a lawyer, I do live in utah and i know in some states it is difficult to do an adoption reversal and my aunt would not sign the paper work but if me and my mom did and took my aunt to court would that still be a case that we could like win? Just for a little backround, my aunt is very controlling, I have no privacy, she tracks everything on my phone, she goes through my room, i never leave the house, she doesnt let me hang out with the one friend I actually I have. I was promised a relationship with my mom when i was first adopted and it has been 3 years and that has yet to happen because of my aunt, she claims its because of her ¨stress¨ but her stress shouldnt even matter, ive been in stress for 4 years now and i have gone through so many different things, i have gone through and still going through depression, I have anxiety because of all of this. I am done with all of this shit and just want to be back with my family and i want to be happy again.
Emancipate (look up how to on google) from adoptive parents at 16. Then write to your courts about your siblings. Unfortunately there isnt much you can do for your younger siblings but you can get out in a year. Once emancipated from adoptive family you can choose where you want to live, that includes with your mom.
Hi, I am 22 years old and my biological youngest biological brother is 15. We were separated as kids and both adopted in different homes. We’ve gotten back in contact when I was 17 or 18 and have built a really good and strong bond. He is about to turn 16 in July, he is not in a very good home with his adoptive mother and I was looking into either wondering if he could get his adoption reversed if I took guardianship of him or adopted him, he could move into my home. I have two jobs and have the income to provide and care for him. If I wouldn’t be able to adopt him or take guardianship. I know that my parents would take guardianship of him, they have a really good family bond and he loves staying at my house and spending time with my family ?
he can emancipate himself from parents at 16 or older, and thats what he should do. Then he will have guardianship over himself. Then he can live with you. Google how its done.
My now Ex, wanted to adopt a child. as her husband I showed her support for a whole year. We have 2 children together and I never wanted more than 2 kids, but I was working through the emotion of this decision for our family. After going through all the adoption process, we were granted the adoption of the child. A week after the adoption was finalize, she asked me for separation. I was never able to create a relationship with the kid and now I am legally responsible for this child. I was wondering about the chance of reversing the adoption but also the process if there is one.
Thank you. I hope that I am making sense
Our great niece was adopted out to her foster parents. Even though we are certified foster parents and even adopted one of our daughters. We visited our great niece and were very capable of taking her in. The judge said she wouldn’t send her out of state, the counselor spoke against us and the foster parents were able to work against us and hurt our case. Even though dcs supported sending her to us. We are and were devastated! She was basically stolen out of our family. We found out that the foster parents have a relationship with the mayor of the town. The original cps worker on the case committed suicide even during the case. We had an approved icpc and even hired an attorney. The judge shut the case down before our lawyer could even help. We want her back if at all possible. Please please let me know if there is anything we can do. We have no contact with her and the foster parents did not deserve to ‘keep’ her over us. The injustice has been awful for us and our kids! They are heartbroken. Any help of info is much appreciated. This isn’t right!
Im sorry to read this it breaks my heart i can relate quite a bit only with it being me and my daughter i tried to jump thru all of their hoops but it wasn’t good enough for cps i was a failure even with a 10,000 lawyer i was forced to sign my rights over or they would take every child after that if I didn’t and they had to terminate my rights first they told me the foster parents wanted to adopt her i only met the mom briefly once and never got her last name or even met the dad it was quite odd and confusing and unfair to me they said if I signed my rights over the mom would make a person fb messenger account for just me and her where she would send me a picture of my baby girl once every two years…its been 4 years as of June 20 …I’ve gotten nothing. I know nothing I have nothing and I feel like nothing
Back in 2017 my kids got taken by cps they ruined our lifes and we lost everything even went as far as setting up drug test and etc which I have proof of all that the father told the court he couldn’t take care of the kid and etc that’s why I had cousdty of them and I kept telling them there was no reason for him to even be on the case plan long story short no one would listen they ended up illegally adopting out my 4 sons on Oct. 2018 so I became pregnant that same year they come took my next son in 2019 3 days after I left the hospital I have Him I got him back in a month and I just had my Daughter and nothing has happened yet. My question is now I’m capable of having 2 of my kids and just got my others stolen? This system is twisted and I never neglected any of my kids all the pain and etc I have to live with everyday is ridiculous. I’m in Ky and I want answers I’ve sent in appeals and etc they keep getting rejected I’m in Ky I’m not giving this up.
My prayers go out to you almost the same situation happened to me..I live in florida. Back when I was 20 so in 2015 or so my 9 year olds grandma took my kids from me. She cohercied my twoo other people to call dcf and she called at the same day. And apparently just because 3 people called in one day that gave dcf the right bto come take my babies I no that she had to been paying them off the case worker and such. My ex husband was the reason I fell off the deep end because he took an open plea . Right after we had my second daughter and knowing he would get 2 years rather then taking probation he wanted to get the time over with. Because he is an addict and I guess he really didnt care what happened to his nor did he no it would be that bad. Well with him gone I moved in with my baby sister biggest mistake ever she was using needles and I had started using ti because I was heart broken. No exsuse b uh t this girl that was living with my sister decided to get me to drive her around to hustle n get pills well my oldest daughter grandma is from california inhad there’s til she’s 5 she is now and my youngest is 5 now. Long story short my little sis please was up and so for a couple days I had my sister take the girls to her boyfriends grandma’s house while I was packed we let the lights go off since we had to move anyway dcf came and took my babies from my sisters boyfriends house kiara my eldest is so attached to me when they ripped her out of my arms she wouldnt stop screaming she is still traumatized her abuela aka grandma never planned in staying in florida. Her son my sperm donor got arrested in fk and got violent with his mom anmmin front of my daughter he got a no contact order so what does the bitch denies to me and says her mons dying in cali and as soon as she crosses over she will come back. She told the court she was going to keep the girls together because she knows that’s how the judges like to donthinkmgs and a couple months after she had them she gave her back. Then it was up to my ex husband because he just got out if jail. A 5 time felon gets a shit. But u didnt because I had a disease the government doesn’t care. How much pain and trauma they caused I went to my parents ngf classes got a job and passed all my pee tests. And then what do you ni I. Fail for pcp i dont even no what that is and i nooeea fact the pee was clean they placed it. I did not sign my rights up but noth my baby daddy did. I wish I had a time machine I dint ni what ti d in. They say since I refused to sign my rights over to them that I could never have a kid again when they took my kids and did an illegal home study at my sisters house that she was moving out of. They went when I wasn’t there nor the kids. And they took all these notes and pictures and said I was living in the apartment with my children with no lights or water and my sister had needles in her bathroom floor in her room and they lied and said it was my room. Once I lost m my babies of course I lost my mind they told me there’s no point in fighting it higher a lawyer they even told me court got switched up when they neew was i was out of town getting clean at my grandma’s and they told me that court got rescheduled tonight later day but I new that wasn’t true and i showed up but that’s when they placed my pee and all my rights got terminated they said I cant have another chance. They dont care my youngest my t daughter lives near me but I hardly ever see her because she is with these obese people that make her eat mc donalds every day and night. And dont run and play with her. My oldest comes to visit every summer since they bitch that started all this took her far far away. But I’m clean now I’m making sure I to visit my 9 year old every Christmas in California. but they serenas aunt and uncle won’t even let me have her for the day by myself. They cant run and olay with her I’m her mother they belong with me incant stop obsessing over what to do I need hell too. Nothing makes sence good luck to all you mommas out they’re that got screwed by the system god bkess
There is some very wicked illegal stuff taking place in the United States of America. With the cps and promise ship program. They are stealing people children, and making it very hard for them to get them back and them terminated there God given rights within 15 months. My grandson got sick and the mother took him to the hospital they admitted him the next day she left the hospital to make a errand. So my son went out there instead . But the promise ship program had been watching her Facebook and following her around. They forced themselves in there life at the. Hospital from his birth. So while my son was with the baby the hospital called cps and said mother left but never stated that my son was right there. They snatched him from him even with police being right with them said too late he is ares now.
We all had i fight to get him back we all lost cause nothing was good enough cause they already had a home picked before he was ever taken!!! Even the judge said give him back they still refused. My son gave up. He was adopted by that lady in 15 months. She was at all of are libraries visits she changed his language before we even lost him. Now we find out that he is not my sons baby. My son did ask for a DNA which was denied to him. We now know who the real father is and he wants his son . But we are not sure what step to take. Cps and promise ship needs to be investigation by fbi the state is illegal stealing babies and kids and lying to do everything yo keep the family apart!!!@ she never should have lost him in the first place. I’m sorry this happened to you but unless we all get together to fight this country. Many more children will be stolen
Be careful what and when u do anything. If your trying to fight DCFS to get your kids back. U should get affidavits from anyone that knows you and have them write out on me on your capability and the love u give. How you treat and then. Then you write one of ways you deal with handling problems and what the of come was. And your feelings on this situation. Then send it straight to the judge. Not the case worker straight to your judge. Asking to get them back and why. Do not bad talk the workers or law facilitators. No bad talk about anyone. Just you and your feelings and reasons why you deserve to have them back.
i have 2 sets of twins. While giving birth to my second set, my first set was in the care of grandmother. long story short, he leg was broken an heroin found in her system, since the father was recovering. He was charged for child neglect andis in jail. however no heroin was in his system since he was going to the clinic but the court wasn’t going by that, i couldn’t take care of 4 babies by myself and no family help. i signed my rights over and they were adopted. Adoptive mom would send me updates but recently blocked me. i want to work with her but at this point i may need legal help. I don’t know my options reversing it isn’t an option now but eventually i want my kids… i want to be there and its not fair! i just want at the very lease me there or holidays birthdays school event (they are 4,4,3,3) Do i have any options? loopholes anything please help!
I’m sorry for your pain. I’ve raised 5 nieces each with different fathers that had rejected all of them. There mother had passed the girls where 16,11,9,6,2. My husband and I did everything we possibly could do for these girls. Mentally none of them have recovered. They all have difficulty in life even with counseling for years. Now they’re all gone onto their own lives.
I have now been a foster parent for four years. And I have seen so many abused children, neglected children, and children that have been loved by their parents.
I’m sorry to say but the best thing for your children is for them not to be part of your life. They have their own family. It is no longer about you. It’s difficult for all age children to not live with their parent, not understand why their parent doesn’t live with them, why they gave them up what did they did wrong, why doesn’t my mom and dad love me and the list goes on and on and affects their daily lives, health and in their mental image of themselves. This is even with their parent or parents telling them that they love them. P
I see you love your children and want to be part of there live. Just know that I commend you that you’ve done the hardest thing any mother could do. You did it for your children.
It will be hard but Wait until they are adults they will love you for everything you gave up for them.
As adults the kids will be able to understand and you guys will form a very strong and loving bond.
Biological father wanting custody of daughter restored after ugly court battle 8 years ago with his parents (he was adopted). Daughter ended up being adopted by his (adoptive) parents and relationship still very poor to this day. What’s best chances and way for him to get his daughter back legally?
If he voluntarily gave up his child for adoption to hi s parents, there are a number of questions that he needs to discuss with a local attorney to get all in order.
Most courts will not take a child away from biological parents unless there is some type of serious harm that is likely to occur, the person is dangerous (ie. child abuse), or serious harm to the child has occurred. If this is what happened, his chances are pretty slim. If this was a more of a battle over who should be the child’s primary custodian and he just said, forget it – you can adopt her – the chances are still not good but not necessarily impossible.
The problem here is that there was some type of custody battle between a parent and the grandparents over a child. This is not normal. 99% of judges would kick this type of case out in a second – so the fact that it went on for 8-years and ended in him giving up his rights makes me believe that there was something very serious that took place that isn’t mentioned here. That needs to be explored in depth with a local attorney that can view the case file and examine those specific facts against the statutes involved.
Best of luck!
My best friend was adopted when she was 6 months old by her new step father. He was later convicted of molesting her. She has extreme mental problems because of the abuse. She has recently told me she wants to get the name removed from all her documents. We are in Texas and the adoption took place in Texas. Is there anyway she can get it reversed without going to court?
I Live in North Carolina.
My ex-wife and I divorced in June of 2018, I adopted her daughter in May of 2017. I was given full custody of both our child in March 2018, then in August 2019 awarded SOLE legal/physical custody. My ex-wife has not seen/ contacted/ no attempt to support, etc. said children.
Every day my adopted daughter asks if her biological father can be her Dad and if she can go live with him, he wants her to come live with him. She will be 9 in May, she knows what she is asking.
Is this possible?
My granddaughter was adopted by her maternal grandmother. It was a CPS case, I had her the first year and 1 month (she was 2 weeks old) and I intervened but we went to mediation and I agreed to maternal grandmother adopting her as long as I kept visitations with my granddaughter as I had been doing. My son got in trouble before she was born and was incarcerated during the case. Biological mom signed away her rights and both parents rights were terminated. My son didn’t have good presentation because he was told by his lawyer he would not get his child due to his criminal history. Mom relapsed once the child was returned and CPS allowed her to stay with maternal grandmother instead of returning her to me, which is why intervened. We would like to know if my son is able to try and reverse the adoption upon his release? Is there anything he is able to do once he gets his life on track?
Any time an adoption will be set to a reversal, each individual state imposes its own set of rules that vary quite differently. As a general rule, most states do not believe that an adoption reversal – except in somewhat extreme cases – is necessarily in the best interests of children.
That said, depending on the local statutes where the parties and child live, a reversal may be possible. More often than not, if there can be an agreement that is reached, the process of reversing (or setting a new adoption) might be streamlined and easier to obtain.
It sounds like there were some serious reasons why either parental rights were stripped or an adoption was forced, taking away parental rights from the biological mother and father.
When this happens, the courts are extremely leery of granting rights back to the parent is very difficult. This is primarily because the threshold for taking away parental rights is so high, that when it happens, the courts generally view it as a serious hazard for that parent to be with a child – remember, the courts primary consideration is NOT whether a parent has had something taken away from them, their primary concern is the life and health of the child.
Speak to a local professional that can give you some specifics on your case as soon as possible!
Thank you for your response.
My granddaughter was adopted by her maternal grandmother. It was a CPS case, I had her the first year and 1 month (she was 2 weeks old) and I intervened but we went to mediation and I agreed to maternal grandmother adopting her as long as I kept visitations with my granddaughter as I had been doing. My son got in trouble before she was born and was incarcerated during the case. Biological mom signed away her rights and both parents rights were terminated. My son didn’t have good presentation because he was told by his lawyer he would not get his child due to his criminal history. Mom relapsed once the child was returned and CPS allowed her to stay with maternal grandmother instead of returning her to me, which is why intervened. We would like to know if my son is able to try and reverse the adoption upon his release? Is there anything he is able to do once he gets his life on track?
I a 15 years old and i was adopted by aunt when i was 4 and i feel mentally and emotionally abused i try my best to keep everything in and i just can’t anymore i have other sisters too and my older sister is 17 and she lives with my mom my two other sisters live with me with my aunt and they seem to be fine i just feel like i’m always getting picked on and i feel like i’m not appreciated, like i don’t fit in with my own family
I am a 13 year old I am almost 14 and I was adopted by my grandparents when I was 12 my father gave away his rights but my mother never did and now my mother has been sober for almost 2 years and has a job and a house and I think it would be in my better interest to be with her
I am with her right now to I have been staying with her for 3 months and I love it here I also have an aunt and uncle that agree with both me and my mother that I should be with her I love my grandparents but sometimes I can’t stand to be around them because my grandpa is sometimes emotionally abusive and screams at me for no reason and over reacts about everything so could you let me know what my chances of getting to live with my mom would be
I am currently 14 years old and I live in Nebraska. I was adopted when I was 8 years old. My biological parents had their rights terminated so they are out of the picture. My adoptive mother and I don’t click. We have two very different personalities. She started sending me to respite in 2016 on weekends and summers. Then it was weekends, summers, and holidays. Last November I ran away from my house and she sent me to live with my respite family. It is now almost Christmas time and she is just signing temporary guardianship. Is there any way for my adoptive parents to sign over more rights? Or reverse the adoption? Also isn’t it neglect that I was living with my respite family for almost a year before papers were signed. ? I would really love your help figuring this stuff out.
No, its abandonment and you as a child can petition the courts to have them removed as your guardians!
I’m currently 15, adopted, but want to go back to my biological mother. I have been given access to talking to her and spending time with my biological family in California, however I live in Montana. I keep regular contact with her and my little brother l, whom she still has custody over. With my adopted parents, I feel like I’m being mentally abused. The subtle comments about what I eat, the not telling me when dinner is ready so I can eat, the not bothering to see if I’m going to eat and giving my portion to the dogs. The dark looks I get when I do grab a snack. And I never seem to do anything right. I come home from school and sit down for about an hour to unwind and when adopted mom walks in, she start to complain that I’m doing nothing. She knows that I know how to cook, and tries to get me to cook 5/7 nights a week. The parents haven’t actually hit me, though. However, their daughter, currently 21, has. There was a day that I was having a bad day, and I ended up swearing, and she responded by slapping me across the face. I was 14, she was 20.
When I was visiting my biological family this summer, I wasn’t ignored for hours on end, they made sure I ate, and interacted with me. I felt more wanted in 2 months then I have in 6 years. I’m scared to be here with my adopted family, always wondering what they might say that day.
I feel the same way. My adoptive parents only gave me one serving even if I was still hungry. And if I did ask for more I was called fat or ridiculed. I wish I had my biological family to step up like they did for you.
by now you’re probably 16 and can be legally emancipated (google how to do it) in your state. After you are emancipated you can choose to live where you want. Including with your real mom!
I’m 13 and I was adopted in February of 2020 I didn’t want to be adopted but I said yes with a fake smile at my adoption. My question was it legal, we weren’t in there care for 6 months like you’re supposed to the court said since we had visits with my sister who was there for more than 6 months they would allow it is that legal? I’m also concerned for my well being I’ve hurt myself while in their care because of how they treat me. The sat things like “she eats like a pig” or have actually calorie counted me before. While on a meet with my doctor because I hit my head and think I had a concussion she made me cry to the point of not being able to speak then took over the call. She told the doctor that “our” main concern was depression not me hitting my head I had lost my medicine a while ago and while talking to the doctor said “she lost” “lost her medicine” both times saying lost she put air quotes around the word lost. When I asked why she thinks I would lie about that she said “well I just think you aren’t taking them like you should” trying to tell ny doctor I’m deliberately not taking my medicine. Things like this keep happening and I’m not sure hiw much longer I can go without hurting my self again. Does this warrant the adoption to be reversed.
I don’t wanna leave my adoptive parents house I’m only 15 and I wanna know if I have a say in rather or not if I want to leave. I just love my adoptive mom so much:( she’s taken care of me for 13 years now and she’s sick not of the Covid but it’s something with her stomach. There’s just to much memories I have with her so many good times. But I don’t know why she told me she can’t put up with me no more she says that its cause I don’t do my chores right and I’ve tried and tried and tired over and over again to do everything she tells me to do but I guess I’m not good enough for her:(. But that’s all I came for please answer my question I’ll be greatly appreciated.
I think she loves you more than you ever know but possibly the illness is making her upset more and maybe wondering about you without her. I suggest going sitting down an talking with your mom and tell her how you feel and that you love her so much .. Im an adoptive parent and I bet this will work she just worried to the point its stressing her out thinking about you and her
Hey I recently got myself in a situation 3 weeks ago. I am 25 years old. Military wife of an active staff sergeant of the us army who just pcsd here ( fort hood ). My marriage of 6 years had went through a rocky point where me and my husband both stepped out on one another. I ended up getting pregnant by the person I stepped out on my husband with, didn’t find out I was pregnant til like 7 months. Me and my husband have known each other since pre school- high school sweethearts as well, long story short i didn’t know what the outcome was going to be we currently have two kids together. I began to search adoption agency. But closed out on it because I wanted her ( my unborn daughter at the time ) to be a blessing to someone. I searched the army wives Facebook group and came across a story from a girl and her husband whom is also in the Military station at the next duty station from hood in El Paso Texas who I felt so deeply sorry for as well and figured they would probably be perfect. I needed someone with a steady income financially stable etc who want to be parents bad. Not even a week, the next few days I went into active early labor. Was so stressed I didn’t have no family to support me like I stated we just got stationed here, I basically did it all alone due to my husband having to stay home with our son who couldn’t come due to the virus going around. I then acted on impulse and signed my rights over. I didn’t go through an agency she had a lawyer I just had myself basically. My husband got there and we talked and prayed when he told me we can work through this but what he didn’t know was it was to late. It’s been 3 weeks I’ve tried counseling etc and tried to just push that I made a mistake and make it as an I can’t do anything about it I wake up every morning to shower an crying my eyes out so that my little family can’t see that I’m hurting inside I don’t want to put my problems on anyone else I’ve done enough of that. I’ve reached out to the adoption mother ( we made it an open adoption ) an explained my heartache praying she have the same heart as me when I read her story and chose her but unfortunately she doesn’t and have now stop responding to my messages she doesn’t even send me pics anymore when I ask of my daughter she blocked me off of social media. I’m just lost I pray my daughter is okay. I’ve asked what if she takes her anger out on my daughter from me. I know most people who put the kid up for adoption be either a bad person , on drugs etc I’m young and has made the biggest mistake in my life and regret it every minute and day I have the kindest heart I can have never been in trouble with the law never did drugs etc just was so shame of my situation and embarrassed of my mistake. I just need to know is there anything you can do or advice you can give. The cost of it all. And must I mention the father never signed over his rights if that help nor was he notified about the adoption. Her attorney is located in El Paso Texas his name is John l Williams, I’ve contacted mr Williams and pleaded to him my mistake, how I made a impulse decision that my husband didn’t know about, the attorney knew I was married but still haven’t sent my husband a consent form to even see if he approve of this, because he know he doesn’t approve. I am reaching out to everyone I feel can help me / guide me. Will take to the news if I have to about the fraud adoption. Please get back to me if you can thanks so much.
Just found out my mom dies April 28th, my brother sis not I for my sister and I. My brother and his wife say they are born again Christians and have stolen from my parents at the time of death. (We are out of state). They are not adopting from India, my sister and I want to stop this because of all the faulseness they show to the world. An we get sued if we try to stop this adoption?
What if my mother and father and I dont get along and all we do id fight all of the time and i just dont think i can mentally take it anymore is there anyway that i can qualify for an readobtion?
And do you have to have a lawyer to do so?
Hello young lady, what state are you in????
Can adoption be reversed in the state of South Carolina? I was 21 when I had my son. Young still in college no job wasn’t sure how to take care of my child. My mom was supposed to do a “temporary” adoption until I can graduate and get on my feet, but that changed once the papers came in less than 48 hours after having him. I finally have a decent job, older wiser, and on my feet now and I want to reverse the adoption, but not sure in the state of South Carolina if I can do it without my parents (the adoptive parents) consent or if it can be done at all. Can someone please answer this? I love my baby boy to the moon and back and I just want to be his mom like I should be.
I pray the Lord will open the door and guide your feet to regaining parental rights of your son. God Bless you c
So what happened in my situation? Because I was kidnapped at 8 months old by my grandmother and her boyfriend Timmy at the time in California. I was taken away from my mother and taken to Florida to my grandmothers boyfriends aunts house, who in fact some how became my adopted mom……..My grandmother did some time in prison for taking me, BUT I was still in a home where I didn’t belong. Regardless of what anyone says. I also know when I was in the 5th grade, my adopted mother even said that biological family is trying to get me back. She ASKED if I wanted to leave, and the funny thing is I said I wanted to know her and be able to see her. Why wasn’t I able to be reunited with my mom? I’ve reached out to countless resources to see what I can do, nobody wants to help me in any way. I guess when you have a lot of money and a well known therapist you can take things, buy it regardless if its an animal, decoration shit I guess you can buy humans as well! (yes I was bought like cattle by my adoptive mother) But nobody wants to help me legally change my name to what I was born or my birthday. Every second, every minute, every single fucking day I wake up I feel I have been living a lie since I was 19 and found everything out.
I would love to talk to you. We are fighting to get a baby back that was unlawfully trafficked through Foster Care in Florida. She will be in your situation when she is your age and know that she was stolen. Leigh.crutch@yahoo.com
Have you called your local US Representatives Office locally? I am not in FL, but I would encourage you to do so. Try and make an appointment and see if they will make an appointment where you can tell the staff member in the office your story, they can open a case for you and perhaps help to get the ball rolling in straitening out your records. Some of those records are likely State but some are Federal.
I just want you to know you have been heard .im on the exact opposite side of the spectrum .im tryi g to find a way to get my kids free from being adopted.when they have been forced to say they want to be adopted and now they will not let us comunicate anymore without supervisionion because they dont want the kids to know how much we want them home they keep lying to our kids telling them we dont want them and i think this twisted crap is happening everywhere. There has to be hope .keep your head up
So is there a time limit on adoption reversals in Maine? My fiancé was adopted as an adult in 1994. He was coerced by his adopted mother into the adoption. She later emptied his savings account and threw him out of the home. So because he was too embarrassed, and didn’t know his rights, or even if the adoption could be
reversed a lot of time has past.
11 days after my 20th birthday I had a beautiful little girl when she was four months old my stepdad put DCF in my life for smoking pot And other false accusations. I did my case plan and fought for almost a year when I started feeling very discouraged about everything my mother called me and told me she wanted to help me anyway she could she coerced me into signing over my rights to my daughter and getting my boyfriend at the time her father to sign his over. She said she was going to fly me to Oregon where she lived and when DCF was out of my life sign my rights back over well….. Long story short she never signed rights back over to me she won’t behind my back and adopted my daughter legally or would this be illegally? My heart was broken and I freaked out I got on drugs really bad for a while I’ve been clean for over five years now and then trying to be a part of my daughters life actively my parents constantly keep me from her don’t let me talk to her and tell her lies about me we have recently gotten a really great bond and she wants to live with me but my parents are refusing to let this happen is there anyway Possible for me to get my rights back of my daughter she is physically and mentally abused by my stepdad all the time my parents are alcoholics and my stepdad is on probation and keeps violating my daughter is miserable and wants to live with me can anyone please help me and tell me how I can get my daughter back into my care and safety?? Listening to my daughter cry about how my stepdad treats her and how she feels breaks my heart every single time with my 12-year-old almost 13-year-old daughter keeps telling me she wants to die and wants to kill her self because of how she’s treated by my parents all the time there’s a serious problem I need to get her out of there Custody And back into mine please please help me if there’s a way
Similar story here although my daughter was taken by her dads parents when i was in a bad place (he got sentenced to seven years in federal prison when i was pregnant) i started using when she was a few months old (self medicating imo) long story short i signed temporary custody to grandmother who i was very close with to “get cys out of the picture” and she told me i could see her whenever i want and once i get clean she will gladly give her back and said she’d never take her from me well she filed to adopt her and won by making a ton of false accusations. She won’t let me see or speak to her I’ve been clean almost four years and have two children (2 and one month) and she doesn’t care. I’ve tried reaching out she says that’s her daughter now. I lost hope and realized there’s nothing i can do until she’s 18 and try to find her. I showed up at her school concert and she somehow spotted me and pulled her off the stage via school principal and also told them crazy stuff like I’m a danger and can’t be around kids blah blah. I wish u the best i hope u can figure ur situation out. As far as myself I’m hopeless and just can’t wait til the day comes i can tell her the truth of what happened. ?
I took a child in at the age of 21 b/c she was in a very bad situation. I was under the impression that she would go back to her parents but that did not happen. I put my whole life on hold to care for a child that I didnt know but grew to love. I am now 26 and It seems like I was pressured into adopting her by the state. They gave me a time frame to let them know what I wanted to do as well as told me that If i didnt she would be posted state wide. I was nervous about letting her go to a new home without knowing who she would end up with so I went through with the adoption. I really in truly DO NOT WANT this child. I am TIRED of taking care of someone else child and I havent had a chance to live my own life. I want to reverse my adoption and let her go with a family that is more established and willing.
Wow…… your a bit of a twat… should have thought about that b4 adopting the poor child. We arnt your trash to throw away when your done… you should have dealt with your guilt of not adopting her when the option arose, not after the case.
For what it’s worth though I hope you get help to unadopt, because it sounds to me like this child would be better off without you anyway.
Score you make a comment like that and calling someone out their name because of how they feel. Try adopting a child whom no matter how much you try to love them and do things to make them happy; disrespects you, lies, steals, run away, and everything against you and does things to purposely hurt you. Then talk about how somebody should feel. Tell that parent a child is not trash. The adoptive parent is doing from the heart. If the adoptive parent did it for any other reasons we are still not to judge. You don’t know the full story you only know a piece. She was young when she took the child in and probably does not have the support we need to make her feel differently.
You are so correct! We adopted a sibling set and the youngest was and still is exactly what you described. He is know 19 years old and has moved on to bigger things: drugs, mental abuse toward us and continues to perfect his awful ways. Thank God he doesn’t live with us anymore but we would like to dissolve the adoption and have no connection or relationship with him. We don’t want to be associated with his actions or behaviors. We both have very good careers and don’t want his reputation to interfere with our lives. We have done everything under the sun to be able to guide him down the right path like his brothers but he continues to make bad choices and we are done saving him and being his punching bag. Does anyone know if its possible to dissolve an adoption of a 19 year old?
Thank you in advance!!
Bless your heart! You have a good heart; it’s just that raising a child is a huge responsibility. And yes the state does pressure foster parents to adopt. I have seen that first hand. God bless you in your attempt to reverse the adoption. You provided a good home for some years. It is okay to admit that you committed to more than you were ready for.
How old is she?
Wow, selfish …. & not even caring to show it. I wonder how people like you are able to sleep at night . It’s sad.
I decided to put my now 6 year old child up for adoption to a best friend and her husband 6 years ago. We all agreed i would be able to see the child whenever I wanted. I was under the impression that this was an open adoption and that their lawyer whom I set them up with knew this. Come to find out after the adoption was finalized there’s no such law in Alabama as open or closed adoption. After it was finalized my so called best friend and husband would no longer let me see or have anything g to do with the child. I do want to get her back for a lot of reasons. But if that’s not possible would it be possible to get any type of visitation rights set up through the court? I just want her to have a relationship with her sister so is 7. And also myself . The adoptive parents are now divorced and the adoptive mother does not have custody of the child anymore. Is there anything g I can do to get her back or even get some kind of visitation rights pictures letters or even give her gifts?
My best friend is in that same boat as you. She was 18 when she had a baby girl and because she could not afford to take care of her, so she put her up for adoption with an open adoption agency (they were terrible, never use Child’s Dream Adoption) but nonetheless she went through the process and thought she was handing her baby over to a beautiful married female couple. Turns out, she was wrong in sooo many ways! My friend was under the impression that their agreement stated she would get all the updates of how her daughter is doing, would be able to visit them in Arizona often, would be able to video chat and talk to her baby…. The day she gave birth, she got 1 day and night to spend with my baby alone. The next day, the couple drove up from Arizona (she lives in Vegas so it was the main reason for choosing them); they met her gorgeous daughter and everything was fine for the 2nd and 3rd day, then on the 3rd day; it was time to sign the papers and thing started getting suspicious. They were going behimd closed doors with not only the agency but also with the lawyer especially after the papers were signed. The next day, she said goodbye to her little one and put her in a van because the couple said they were going to stay in a townhouse in Henderson, NV for a month or 2. Welp, about a week later; my friend called the couple to ask her if she could visit them in Henderson; she got rejected because they had friends visiting. So she understood and just said okay. Then 3weeks went by since the departure to give them time to settle in and everything and so she asked again, only this time they responded saying they were already back in Arizona so she never got to say goodbye to her baby forreal! After that, for the first few months, they were really good at keeping their promise to do updates so my friend was happy. This lasted for about a year, then they started only updating every few months with just a couple of pictures. After about a year and a half, my friend texted the couple to see if she could come down to Arizona to spend the weekend with her. You know what they said? “We moved to New Jersey about a month ago.” She cried hysterically for 3hrs straight because she knew nothing about this but she took it like a champ. Because of the long distance, she couldnt get out to see her and the updates got lesser and lesser. Every time she’d ask if could come up to visit her (she just wanted to hear their response); they would always make up the excuse that their not in town or family was going to be with them. Every time she asked to video chat, they never responded back. And now, almost 4yrs since her baby’s birth; she never gets an update unless she’s messaging them first and it’s on a holiday. She probably got a total of 50 pictures & videos combined of her child in 2019 and they were nails and teeth to get because if she didnt message them ever, they would never send anything!
I know this because i was there through it ALL; the crying, the depression, the happy moments, and the confused moment. I witnessed it all!!
I’m sorry and really hope you get to see your child. I’m in Alabama also, my parents said they would help me with my then 9 month old baby girl. My husband had just passed and I was a wreck. At first I got to see her, then after it was too late I found they had filed a petition in the legals in the paper looking for me. When they knew exactly where I was. So they adopted my daughter and I haven’t got to see her since she was 3 and now she is 7. All I want is to be able to see her. But was the way they adopted her legal?
I adopted my brothers 2 daughters in 2018. Sometimes he says he going to take me to court and get them back. Can he do that.
I adopted my brother’s 3 grandchildren 10 years ago, at the mother’s request because they were to be split up and adopted into separate families. I gladly took them. They were 31/2, 2 and 14 months. From the moment they arrived they were rascals, tearing things up. I was 55 years old at the time. I constantly had trouble with the oldest. She does not take “no” for an answer. We had raging tantrums. We were in family counseling for 8 years. Things continues to escalate with her until last year when she attempted suicide. She spent some time away and my daughters and I realize our house is happier without her. She badly wants to live with her birth mother, who has lied to her and made her believe I actually stole the girls from her. I fought for her but even after a year she still is not happy. I would like to give her freedom to go with her birth mother but I’m not sure her mother is still interested. Is it possible to reverse her adoption quietly without a lot of court proceedings? I would like to keep it as quiet as possible. I love her enough to let her go if that is what she wants, and I’m positive it is.
i signed over my rights under deuress. my lawyer said i had no choice.i didnt know there was a time frame to change my mind.my sister has my kids. but she has a husband that she failed to mention to cps. he has a family violence history and he does drugs.can the adoption be reversed? can i get them or can another relative get them?what is the process?
I’m 16 and have a adopted father, who never speaks to me we haven’t spoken in 7+ months, he doesn’t treat me like his child, he’s threatening, and isn’t right to be a father. My mother is about to divorce him so is there anyway I can get my adoption reversed, and if it does what will happen to my life and my name, who gets full custody of me and what will my name change to, what it originally was or what my parents is?
This is something you are going to need to discuss in detail with an attorney. Custody matters and adoptions often create a very confusing mix of rules and laws that must be applied. For example, if we take the whole ‘adoption’ portion out of your question (which, I know, is the main question to begin with), custody decisions are made based on what the best interests of a child are.
In your case, it would certainly seem that your mother is the best parent to do what is in your best interests (and a child representative / guardian ad litem would certainly be told that by you, and that person would inform the court).
Because the adoption is now involved, the court very likely could use a similar set of questions to make a determination as to who the full-time parent should be, and then ALSO transfer your case (a portion of it) to the local division that handles guardianship/adoption matters (likely a probate judge).
But, this is all going to vary wildly between the states, so you should connect with and speak with an experienced local attorney asap.
I gave up my daughter to adoption when me and the mother got divorced. My daughter is now 16yrs I gave her up to birthmother and new husband in adoption 8yrs ago. I regret everyday of what I did and I know I did it under a lot of stress from court and mother issues. Now I found my daughter on social media, thankfully she agreed to see me hiding form her mom and step dad. we spoke a lot of what happened and why I did what I did. She’s a bit confused of what happened between me and her mother but agrees that she loves me and wants to spend time with me. Ofcourse the mother found out and agreed to text with me, but now that me and my daughter want to see each other and we do it behind mothers back because she don’t agree for no good reason. I saw her today my daughter and mom called her immediately over the phone to know why she was taking so long to come back for a little liquor store down the corner from their house, I spend 2mins when mom called her to get home right away. after I left I texted my baby to check on her and she said her mom told her that she couldn’t see me until she was 18yrs old. my daughter insist on askin her mom WHY I cant see my birthfather and all she told me her mom says is “because” nothing else. What can I do to be able to see my daughter? I want to spend time with her she is 16yrs old she loves me and I love her as much and more.
please let me know
thanks
Hi I had a baby 5 months ago…. I don’t tell any body and wanted her adopted … if signed the adoption papers but it hasn’t yet been to court…. my heads been a mess but now if had time to take it all in and think about I want my little girl back … is they anyway I can stop this.. thanks
We adopted our son from a woman who adopted him and brought him to the USA from Russia. That was 10 long years ago he only lived with the first family for 6 weeks and they disrupted the adoption. We adopted him not knowing he had deep issues. We felt sorry for this little 5 year old who needed a family but it has not been an easy go. He is now 15 lies, steal ( a lot) and the list gets worse and is long. Is there anything we can do to terminate our rights and not be responsible for him any longer ? We have other children older and one younger and we don’t want the courts in our lives we are just so tired. Legally in New York what are our options? And is this an expensive court process?
Reversing an adoption is a process that essentially requires the courts to determine what is in the child’s best interests. Most courts require more proof than that a relationship is no longer working out; there must be clear evidence that the relationship is so bad, that it doesn’t benefit the child by staying with you – that it is actually harmful if the child were to stay with the adopted family. The courts view an adoptive relationship the same as if it was your biological child (that’s the idea, at least), so think about what that means when trying to reverse it: you are telling the court, “this is my child, and I no longer can handle them and want someone else to take care of them.”
Obviously this is not what is exactly happening in your house, but this is a blunt way of thinking about it from strictly a legal standpoint.
The courts will likely treat this situation not as a reversal of an adoption, but as putting a child up for adoption instead. The reasoning behind this is that the courts often will “not take a child back into state custody to avoid parental responsibility.” That’s the wording courts use a lot of the time.
This sounds like an extremely difficult decision, and you have had the child for a decade – speak with therapists and anyone else that can help provide counsel for your family and the child and then speak with an attorney that specializes in adoption as well as an adoption agency that might specialize in what is called “second chance adoptions” to get the help that you and this child needs. Best of luck, we hope that tings work out well for all of you, and remember, when talking about the law in difficult emotion situations like this, sometimes the emotions need to be left at the door to give the case an unbiased look – its not that people are uncaring to your plight, but that the law requires that type of analysis.
Mr Baker, I’m 37 years old. I was told that I can “vacate adoption” from my stepfather, which took place in Illinois and have my original birth certificate (Illinois) reinstated. I was told I have to fill out the legal form to do this, but have not found this form nowhere. Any advice where I’d find it?
You made to Decision to care for him for 10 years! Just too abandoned him now. Since he getting in trouble, and too hard to handle. He’s a teenager going throw so much emotions, especially dealing with issues. Like trying too understand, how two people before him didn’t want him. Now here you are 10 years later doing the same thing. You can’t just take in a kid, just to give him up when it’s too much trouble. When you adopted him you sign up to be his parent through everything. You sign up to be his parent. Giving up is only going to traumatize this kid into thinking he isn’t loveable. Think about the kid you adopted, not yourself.
As a mother of an adopted 10 year old who we’ve had for 8 years, and who are going through the exact hell as the mother asking the question, I can sware that she is THINKING ABOUT THE CHILD. How on earth is it healthy for him to stay in a home with parents who aren’t capable of meeting his needs?! Would you ask a birth parent considering the same dilemma this question? I doubt it. This is not an easy issue and as an adoptive mother, believe me, you are thinking about the childs needs at this point. Not your own. I’ve never met a selfish adoptive parent. Ever.
Brandi Rubio: Thank you for having that mother’s back….
There is way to much judgment out there….from having never walked in that persons shoes.
Shame on the person whom thought judgment was a better way to communicate…than understanding through sympathy and compassion on behalf of the adoptive mom.
She did not cause that child’s trauma and she is by no means selfish for being brave enough to say that he has challenges she can no longer meet….
Because lord knows we see the reactions when you do speak out.
People want to be quick to blame the adoptive parent for not being the saint that society weighed on their shoulders to be.
Sorry your flaws didn’t meet with their perfection….
She didn’t ask to be this child saint…she felt in the moment she could give him the best he needs…but just like with anyone…we change over time….and sometimes that new change isn’t always what those in your life can handle. It’s become more work than time to love. Lost of people go through painful situation…it’s is by NO means a reason to treat others like crap. When your old enough to know right from wrong…your old enough to understand that the people who are trying to do right by you…are being damaged by your behavior.
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Once u adopt, no one will help u. They will only say: “well, u CHOSE to adopt! Its UR problem!” If ur just irresponsible, however, wanting to have sex without protection, then poor u if u have a baby, maybe we can help. It’s disgusting.
I once stood in judgement of parents that felt a reversal of the adoption was what was best for the whole family including the child, just like you clearly are. I pray you will never have to walk in the shoes of a mother that has spent years and years sacrificing everything to keep her daughter that is mentally ill (due to unspeakable developmental trauma inflicted upon her by her biological parents prior to removal) safe from herself. I pray you will never feel the utter hopelessness when an adaptive mom has to surrender her daughter back to the state because nothing the mom does, no matter how desperately she fights for, or how many professionals that have turned her daughter away as unable to provide services to, will save her, will help her heal, will help keep her safe. When the adoptive mom has to weigh the safety of the rest of the family from the daughter against the feeling she is a complete failure and desides failing is the best she can offer her daughter.
Have you ever heard of R.A.D.? My husband and I adopted 2 boys in 2015, they have both been diagnosed with R.A.D. and believe me I know your pain. It doesn’t matter how much love and caring you give a R.A.D child, they lie, cheat, steal and literally tear your heart out. We have been to every parenting class known to man and the boys have been in and out of institutions all of these years also. We are in our 60s and the stress, tension and constant arguments are starting to take it’s toll on our health. May God bless you and good luck to you.
I signed the rights to my son away after getting into the limelight of family services and then getting into legal problems of my own. His mother and myself chose to sign away our rights. So his grandma and grandpa on his mother’s side adopted him and now he is getting ready to be 12 and they were having problems with him and contacted me because he wanted to come live with me. It turns out that being with me has really help his behavior problems that he was having gotten a lot better. His grandparents want me to adopt him and have my rights back. I live in Missouri. Is this something that can be done? With them willfully doing this and the fact that it really is a better place for him because he mines and does his school work. He wants to live with me as well and actually he has already been staying with me for a couple of weeks. Any info on what I need to do would be very helpful. Thanks
Probly can’t reverse adoption. Have adoptive grandparents do a Delegation of Parental Authority (a POA-power of attorney). U can get ur child medical care, put him in school, everything but sign him into military. The kid don’t care the legal mechanism. No court needed. The document merely needs to be notarized. Adoptive parents remain in control as they can rescind document whenever they want. But if all are in agreement, who cares?
Hi. I have 2 daughters that were adopted my my mom and step dad. My youngest daughter was a blackmail to sign over, children n youth took my son and courts said if I sign over my daughter to my parents they would give my son back or they would fight me and tack on aggravated circumstance so I would never have custody of my kids or future kids. So of course I signed and got my son back. But 2 weeks before my son came home my parents took me to court to adopt my daughter that’s now12. Her father had a 2 year PFA on him due to threatening to kill our daughter to hurt me. He said he would wait till the PFA was up to even see his daughter. So fear of him trying to get her while I was dealing with children n youth and him winning I signed my rights over to my parents and they took his rights, he never even showed up. Well my parents did a PAC agreement so they couldnt just take her away from me. Well by the first overnight I found out they told her if she lived with me that I would take her away n she wouldn’t see any of them again so that made her want to live with them and she said that in court. Well soon as adoption went through everything changed. They treat her like crap. She messages me all the time about hating her life and wanting to die. I’m afraid if she doesn’t come back home what could happen to her. She tells me how she sees my step dad slamming my mom into the walls. Put her down all the time, and even uses me as a threat. Saying if she doesn’t do what they say she wont see me.. if been trying to save money for an attorney and whatever fees for filing stuff etc so it’s taken me alittle bit. I’m currently getting a bigger place so she will have her own room, it will be in her school district so I wont be changing her normal life. What makes matters worse is for some reason they wont let me get my younger daughter. They let me have my oldest but not youngest. So that little girl everytime I get my oldest stands in the window crying mommy as she watches her brother n sister go with her mommy and shes not aloud. They are messing that little girl up emotionally with that. I have full custody of my son he lives with me. N he rarely sees his middle sister but sees his older sister every other weekend except summers its every other week. It makes no sense why they would allow one child but not the other…. but it’s been 2 years since adoption. Is there a chance to get her back and would they take her thought in consideration since she will be 13 soon. Please let me no what you think… thanks
Can a biological father reverse a finalized adoption if he knew nothing about it and takes a paternity test?
This depends entirely on the state. Notice has to be provided to everyone who has a lawsuit filed against them – this is normally done through the serving of a summons and a complaint/petition to the person via the sheriff or a special process server. The point is to give the person the opportunity to appear and state their claim or defend themselves.
This is the case in family law matters as well as other types of cases.
In family matters, like adoption, child custody, divorce, etc., it sometimes is impossible to locate a person. When this happens, an individual may be able to go through a process called “service by publication.” Publication means that a small classified ad will run for a set period of time in a newspaper (frequently it is run in a lawyer paper that virtually no one ever sees) to satisfy the statutory ‘notice’ requirement.
To have a publication be good enough to constitute service, a person needs to show proof that there was no way to find the person – skip traces from a private eye, facebook searches, etc. It should be almost impossible to find the person for publication to be valid.
Once publication is done, the court can hold the person in default, meaning they can’t be found, they are considered to have been given notice, and the case can proceed without them.
The problem with adoption and this process, if allowed (every state is different, remember), is that a biological parents rights have now been taken away forever through adoption. Court’s do not take this lightly, and without consent, it is possible, in some states, that problems could arise. Extra care needs to be taken in these situations to ensure a nightmare scenario doesn’t come up in 5-years and for that, a local attorney experienced in adoption is necessary to review the facts and the law and get things done the correct way.
During the last months my pregnancy I told my mom that I was expecting. From that point on I received discouragement from her . She told me that she wouldn’t help me and that I couldn’t stay with her if I decide to keep my child and at that time it was the only place that I had. She promised that I wouldn’t be successful and she refused to show me any type of support towards keeping my child, she only wanted me to give him away. I expressed to her on numerous occasions that I wanted to keep my child but the only response I received was a cold and heartless one with the threat of being out of of her home and I’m only 16, I didn’t have any other options. She continuously pushed me to move forward with the adoption plan although I didn’t want to. Is there any way that I can reverse the adoption, or gain back my parental rights.
Hey i have 5 kids im in chicago il i signed my rights due to me going to prison over to their cousin on the father side i was told if i sign my rights over she will let me get my kids and they can come live with me and if i dont my kids are in the stage of being adopted by an unknown family and they will be separated so i did what was best for my kids at that time its been a few years ago i was wondering im Chicago il can i get the adoption reversed
So when I was 19 I was pregnant, father passed, bouncing from home to home, sleeping around, etc. I wasn’t in the right state of mind for a child so I ended up putting my kid up for adoption. The “supposed father” never showed for court, it’s like he went ghost, so no paternity test, so the adoption was finalized. Fast forward to now basically 3 years (the baby just turned 3), I’m in my own home and living a much better and safer life. I even reconnected with a old friend. We began talking and I was telling him about what I was going through and my adoption and how hard it was for me. He went on to say that he knows the kid I gave up was his. We did have sex often unprotected. He said the time frame add up completely and he has a gut feeling about it. He went on to say how he’s hurt, and can’t believe he’s been out of his child life for about 3years now because of me. I didn’t know that he had a chance to be the father at the time because last time we had sex, I was bleeding the next day. I thought it was a period, doctors and nurse told me year later that bleeding is completely normal until tissue is passed . So when I slept with the “supposed father” I was still already pregnant and didn’t know. I have the real father here blowing up my phone talking about go to court and going to take a paternity test. He said that he knew nothing about the adoption and said he’s willing to do everything to get her back. If he’s the father, I feel bad because he’s a good man and a great father already, this would be his first daughter and he’s devastated. What can he do? He says he still and will always have right as a biological father. I don’t know. Can someone help answer because this is stressing and I want to help as much as I can. He says he’ll go to court and do everything, take the test and all that. So what can a biological father do when he wasn’t notified nor had a chance in court and want to be active in his daughter life ?
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My ex’s family took our children, we was never married. He signed over his parental rights but I got a lawyer && chose to fight for my babies. I found out a month before court I was pregnant with my boyfriends baby. Once my ex’s family found out I was pregnant they started harassing me and threatening me to sign the papers. I refused and continued with the petition to take my children back, about 2 days before court his mom caused me to be evicted from my home, ensuring I would be homeless (staying with friends) at the time of court. His brother told me he would shoot me before I left the courtroom if I won. Out of fear for my unborn baby and myself’s life I signed the papers. At first they allowed me to be in my kids’ life and then decided I couldn’t see my babies anymore. It’s been 7 years, if I see my children in public they allow hugs and short visits but will not allow me to spend any time with my kids even tho before I got a lawyer the agreement was they would never take my kids from me if I’d just sign the adoption papers. My daughter whom is now 12 has contacted me via social media privately and has told me that her adopted parents will not get her the correct medical attention for her disorders (anxiety, depression, adhd, bipolar etc) nor will they take her to the dentist, she needs corrective lenses which they refuse to get for her and they mentally, verbally and emotionally attack and abuse her. She says she wants to come live with me and her siblings but I’m afraid there is nothing I can do, due to the adoption. If there is anything I can do to ensure my child is not neglected please let me know. I really just want to bring my child home. Her father lives less than 3 blocks from her and has nothing to do with her. Her brother has a lot of mental issues as well and is being medically neglected. I really need to know if there is anything I can possibly do. My daughter is very distraught && miserable, I am in fear for her wellbeing and safety.
This sounds like a tragic situation, and one that is more than a little difficult to overcome. Being that you signed over adoption papers, it will be difficult for a court to look a the situation and stresses that you were put under so many years ago and determine that coercion took place.
As far as attempting to get some kind of visitation with the kids, that is possibly a different scenario altogether and one that should first be explored.
As you can imagine, courts do not like a situation where you have had extremely limited time with the kids for years now, and now expect to just have the kids tossed over to you, which is a huge change for the kids (and an abrupt change for kids, unless life or serious health issues are on the line) and not one that courts generally like to do.
Speak with one of our experienced family law attorneys and see if your state has some remedies available for at least obtaining some initial visitation with the kids and then the possibility of reversing the process. There are a lot of factors that go into this, and honestly, most of the details you mention (possible coercion, threats, etc.) are tings you should not focus on here – those are probably distractions and not things that will get you the relief you seek (it’s difficult to hear this, I’m sure, but you have to move past what happened years ago and focus on right now and moving forward).
So when I was 19 I was pregnant, father passed, bouncing from home to home, sleeping around, etc. I wasn’t in the right state of mind for a child so I ended up putting my kid up for adoption. The “supposed father” never showed for court, it’s like he went ghost, so no paternity test, so the adoption was finalized. Fast forward to now basically 3 years (the baby just turned 3), I’m in my own home and living a much better and safer life. I even reconnected with a old friend. We began talking and I was telling him about what I was going through and my adoption and how hard it was for me. He went on to say that he knows the kid I gave up was his. We did have sex often unprotected. He said the time frame add up completely and he has a gut feeling about it. He went on to say how he’s hurt, and can’t believe he’s been out of his child life for about 3years now because of me. I didn’t know that he had a chance to be the father at the time because last time we had sex, I was bleeding the next day. I thought it was a period, doctors and nurse told me year later that bleeding is completely normal until tissue is passed . So when I slept with the “supposed father” I was still already pregnant and didn’t know. I have the real father here blowing up my phone talking about go to court and going to take a paternity test. He said that he knew nothing about the adoption and said he’s willing to do everything to get her back. If he’s the father, I feel bad because he’s a good man and a great father already, this would be his first daughter and he’s devastated. What can he do? He says he still and will always have right as a biological father. I don’t know. Can someone help answer because this is stressing and I want to help as much as I can. He says he’ll go to court and do everything, take the test and all that. So what can a biological father do when he wasn’t notified nor had a chance in court and want to be active in his daughter life ?
my first child was taken from me as my partner (my little ones dad) at the time got put inside for imitation of a firearm with intent, so social was informed and my social worker was very nasty and applied to the court to put me and my son in a foster placement away miles away from my support system at that time my grandma and my mother were both in unwell and i thought that my grandma wouldn’t make it . so i had to move away two weeks before Christmas when i didn’t know how long i was going to be away for or nothing i under went a parenting assessment to see if i could parent my son and they said that this would only go on for six weeks at the end of the assessment social said i was not fit enough to parent on my own. anyway my son got adopted and since then i have had another son got my own house and a steady relationship i feel i wasn’t treated right and would like to know where i stand on getting my first son back in my custody.
Hey so my question is when i was being adopted by a close friend of minds pearnts i was in a lot of distress and felt very pressered. my mother an alcholic signed away her parental rights but she was drunk and my adoptive pearnts promised to buy her a case of beer. me and my sister are now looking to reverse my adoption is this possible still after ive been with my adoptive paernts for 2 years.
This sounds like all kinds of levels of abuse. Contact our team as well as your caseworker, assuming you still have one that you are in contact with and find out what rights are available. Here is a list of agencies to contact, depending on your state:
Links:
1. Child Welfare Information gateway – HHS
2. HHS Adoption Help by State
thank you for trying to help but we have been told that there is no possible way to get it reversed if i am not being physically abused or can get them to sign over rights which they will not do i have done all this without there knowledge and can’t let them find out so i am afraid i am stuck no matter the emotional abuse
I’m an adopted child and I am wanting to undo the adoption. The foster mom and I don’t get along at all. And I want to live with either my biological dad or a new family I’m tired of hurting here I’m not being abused or anything I’m just not the right fit for them. I have a brother and sister with me but I hate that I’m wanting to leave them. But I feel that’s the best option for me. Or if I can’t I feel like I would drive myself to killing myself. Or being in and out of hospitals. Or in and out of jail.
I can’t leave here no more. I would rather be in foster homes then leave here. I just want to leave ASAP !! Is there any way u think I can undo it?
I’m not sure how old you are but it sounds a sif your in teenage years and I assure you every teenager feels the same way. Especiif a relative or other family seem more freeing to you. Foster homes are nothing like on TV or the news.. there is more abuse there and toxic environment then you can imagine. If Bio Dad is truly the right fit then go for it but you have to look outside your teenage brain further into adulthood to really see if he is. Sometimes people seem like the right fit when you you only see the good parts. As an adult you see the shitty parts as the parts you appreciate. Being hard on you, making you complete your sport, not letting you always run with friends. Later you will learn to respect those things. Really think long and hard before you pull the trigger.
Respectfully submitted,
By a once 16 years old teenager that was molested by a foster dad and mind fucked and eventually molested by foster mother. While protecting an 8 year old brother 8n same home. It is what it is.
I was adopted as a teenager by my mother’s husband. The relationship ended (he abused drugs/alcohol and threatened to kill us all) in 2012 when my mother fled while he was at work one day. I haven’t had contact with him since before she left. Is there a way to have the adoption reversed? I’m an adult in my 30s and don’t want to have any ties to him whatsoever.
My friend adopted his wife grandkids to use his GI Bill only during there marriage .He’s in the process of separation/divorce His wife is requesting for him to pay child support and health insurance for kids that has never lived with them or taken care of.The grandchildren they adopted still live with there mom and she takes care of them . What should he do?
Me and my little sister were placed into foster care when I was 10 years of age. We were split up and she was adopted when I turned 14. I am now 22 almost 23 and I’m trying to figure out how I can get custody of my sister. she reports to me about being verbally abused and emotionally neglected and just states that she wants to be with her blood family. I am older and more financially stable since being married is there anything I can do or anyway I can reverse the adoption?
I adopted my nephew last year (2019) and everything was going great until I was diagnosed with yet another medical illness and it began to take its toll on my body. I have not been able to work due to my medical Illnesses and would like to know how can I reverse adoption because at this point I feel it’s in the best interest of my nephew to be with someone that could better take care of him financially. He requires a lot of attention as his aggression progress. I do have two other children but their father help me with them. He has a older sibling that would love to gain custody of him, I would like to know if that’s possible and if so how can we get started with the necessary steps to get her custody?
I’m in a situation where my partner and I adopted a sibling set of 3. The oldest is 7 and we have had her since she was 2. She had some behavioral issues when she came to us (cursing, hitting) we thought she would outgrow some but no she lies and steals. She told lies on myself and my partner to the school and CPS came out. While case is open she lied again when she didn’t get her way and now another case is open. I’m a licensed mental health provider and my partner and I do not discipline put kids with physical punishment. She has told the school that we hit her and beat her and both times the CPS worker saw no bruises or anything. Then she lies and said she never told teachers that. I always believe she wasn’t a good fit because of behaviors I’m aware of but feel she is getting worse and my partner and I feel stuck because she is teaching certain habits to her younger siblings.
My fiances 5 children were taken from her a few years ago. Her ex husband left while she was asleep and they got on a roof cos took them. She since had a new baby cyf cos was involved and confirmed she is fit to raise the child. The system was messed up earlier with the 5 children and stole them from her. The pain is everyday of missing them. It is not fair it is not right. Is there any possible way to get these children where they belong. I will fight to the end to do all i can as they need to be back in the arms of their mother. All the court hearings and everything were messed up as they fired a woman that said she was definitely fit to keep her children.
I was talked into signing papers with my soon to be ex wife to adopt her cousins child when (my soon to be wx wifes biological mother)passed away while taking care of the child. The marriage went sour over the years. She then put me out of her apartment and expected me to pay bills for her and myself because she refused to find employment for years and spends his social security checks on things not pertaining to the childs needs. How can I terminate my parental rights to and adopted child.
Depending on the state, this may not be an option. The courts, many times, view your relationship with this child in virtually the same manner as if it was your biological child. The more pressing matter here is getting things in order to limit the amount of maintenance (ie. alimony or spousal support) that you could be ordered to pay. A lot of different things go into calculating this depending on where you live.
Primarily, the main factors (again, varies state to state) for a determination of maintenance / alimony are as follows:
1. The income and property of each party, both the marital or non-marital property, and how that could/should be allocated between the parties;
2. The present and future earning capacity of each party;
3. The needs of each party;
4. Are there any impairments in the present or future earning of either party;
5. The standard of living during the marriage;
6. The duration of the marriage;
7. The health, age, occupation, education, skills, etc., of each party;
8. any valid agreement (ie. premarital agreement) the parties may have signed;
9. Other factors the Court finds relevant, just, and equitable under the specific circumstances of the case.
All of these factors need to be applied to your case to view your particular situation here. And if there is a way that you can help her stand on her own, that can alter things substantially as well because if she gets a decent job (maybe with help from you even), that can limit or cut off potential maintenance (alimony) since she may be self-sufficient.
The only way to really dig into this is to sit down with an experienced divorce attorney and look at all the facts and circumstances of your case. Give our team a call.
I lost my parental rights in 2015 in Michigan due to a domestic violence incident! My children were adopted in 2017! Is there still a chance for me to try to overturn this adoption?
I’m in the state of TN. I was married 4 years ago and I’m going through a divorce because my husband was violent. He adopted my son. He is wanting to relinquish his rights to not pay child support. He’s making it out that he does not have the best interest for our son. Can he do this??
I have 4 adopted daughters. One of them is violent and it has become very unsafe for my other 3 children. Almost 3 yrs of counseling and medication and she is unable to bond with our family. She is currently inpatient due to threats against her sisters, is it possible to get our adoption of her reversed in order to protect the other children? Please help
These situations are some of the most difficult in the world. Each state differs on these issues in a pretty dramatic way. One potential issue you may need to keep in mind is when a possible investigation begins to verify all that you have mentioned and the reasons why this is necessary may not paint you in the best possible light – rather than looking out for the other kids safety, a state worker (if DCFS or similar entity is required to be involved – again, depends on the state), might say you aren’t fit to put in the work on this one child, why should you have the other kids.
Probably an unlikely scenario, but the crazies of situations occur and no one ever sees it coming. You need to connect with a local attorney who can dig in to the details of your case and the local statutes. Best of luck for your family.
So I lost custody of my baby girl at birth, 3 years ago.. the people that have TEMPORARY full custody have been good to my babies and myself included.!! I signed papers saying I would allow them to adopt my child, it hasnt been finalized in court YET!! Baby daddy all of a sudden decides he wants the baby and is fighting for custody. Hes never been around for her, helped with her, or tried to have a relationship with her the entire 3 yrs shes.been alive and breathing!?!? I’m wondering if it’s to late to cancel the adoption?? Help me plz
I made a big mistake. And I know that what’s best for my baby girl, isnt to be with him. She doesnt even know him!? I’m scared as hell.
Any info will help
This is a situation where you need an experienced child custody lawyer and an explanation of some relevant laws aren’t going to cut it. There really is no way around it. While the courts generally prefer that a child be placed with a biological parent (for obvious reasons), it’s not necessarily a guarantee in situations like yours. If the father has known all along about this child and has avoided all responsibility intentionally, that will be one of the deciding factors. But you need professional help here, you cannot do this alone.
So I lost custody of my baby girl at birth, 3 years ago.. the people that have TEMPORARY full custody have been good to my babies and myself included.!! I signed papers saying I would allow them to adopt my child, it hasnt been finalized in court YET!! Baby daddy all of a sudden decides he wants the baby and is fighting for custody. Hes never been around for her, helped with her, or tried to have a relationship with her the entire 3 yrs shes.been alive and breathing!?!? I’m wondering if it’s to late to cancel the adoption?? Help me plz
I made a big mistake. And I know that what’s best for my baby girl, isnt to be with him. She doesnt even know him!? I’m scared as hell.
Cps is now trying to force my termination of parents rights, they told my sister shed have to adopt them.but never let me see them or be alone with them ever again.. If my sister were to adopt them can she give them back to me or allow me to adopt them back from her once I finally become stable again. Cps has made me lose my job and a place due to it and my own PD waived my right to council at a team meeting without my permission and no lawyer wants to touch this case and I need help asap or advice
I would be extremely cautious about doing something with the kids if your sister is granted the adoption over them. Many times there will be explicit provisions that her rights could be terminated and reversed if she allows the children to spend time with a person in this case, you), that is specifically not allowed to have contact with the kids.
This could all blow up and mean that your sister can’t have the kids and they could become wards of the state – a truly terrifying situation.
Your best bet is to help ensure that your sister gets these kids and can care for them. Once you have gotten stable and have a proven track record of being stable (think more like a year or more, not a few weeks or a couple months, you can file a motion with the courts for some kind of 3rd party visitation with the kids.
But whatever you do, do not involve yourself in any way that could send these kids into the states custody instead with their family – step one of getting stable and proving you are a good parent again means staying away and not jeopardizing this for the kids for the time being.
I’m a 15 year old and I was adopted when I was 7. My adoptive parent and I have had a bad relationship even before I was adopted. Now at 15 very bad things have happened to me due to the fact that we argued all the time and that caused something ever traumatic. I can’t stand it anymore and I have to get out. What will I have to do in order for me to petition for my unadoption?
So very sorry that you are going through this terrible time. Without divulging too many details in such a public forum, I can say that you should reach out and give our team a call and discuss in detail what exactly is going on.
Of course, many people may read this and think. “every child fights with their parents – adoptive parents or biological,” but I also know that there are many instances where traumatic events do happen and in those situations, you deserve the respect, love, and help that a professional can assist you with ruing this difficult time.
Know that there are many options, counselors, and places to seek help.
I am begging and pleading for someone to please help me. My son was taken from my wrongfully. I was alienated and put through hell and railroaded beyond anything anyone should and could handle. Please someone just talk to me and show me some type of guidance.
i believe the children I had was taken wrongly, and the last 2 boys are suffering. How much would it cost to do this??
This all depends on the circumstances that led to the adoption and the current living situation/lifestyles of everyone – while keeping in mind that the court views the best interests of the children above all else.
If fraud was used to obtain the adoption, that is a big reason to bring this before the court. But if it is more of a bad decision remorse type situation, that is a different situation entirely.
Um if a child has been adopted out with out a consent from biological mother can that child be adoption reversal? At any time or how long does it get revoked
Yes, it may be possible. The first issue to consider is whether you have standing to bring a suit though. Standing means you have rights to go to court and have something done, like payment for medical expenses from someone crashing their car into you rear-bumper. Most states treat biological parents that have consented to adoption as no longer having any more rights to the child than a complete stranger. That is the first huge thing you have to prove.
The next would be to show that a big mistake was made – that the child is placed in a dangerous environment, that fraud was committed, that some circumstance has changed dramatically, or something similar.
An example would be a woman adopts a child, and then a year later married a convicted pedophile. That could maybe be reason to show the court that the child should not be in that home. However, the judge will make their decision on what he/she believes is “in the child’s best interests.” That is the primary analysis that is made by the court and it involves all kinds of factors (dozens, really).
Please I need help I’m in fl my children were taken due to up code of house codes but i did everything i was suppose too but i didn’t have a place yet so they tricked me into signing my rights to the g tdd and mother the problem is she never got them the judge ordered for them to g.j o on a certain date than they put a court order to stop it with a different judge and in one day they gave my kids to strangers UK can’t see or talk to them I was a good mom I made mistakes but none hurting my children I love them and need to know wat to do its killn me inside
My nephew and niece are paying a guardian to take care of their adopted son. I think they are planning to reverse their adoption in Mi. This child had been taken away from another and when the child started giving them emotional troubles they let their real mom see him on occasion after she stopped using drugs. She than rejected him.
Hi my name is anonymous my one year old son has been in Foster care since July the social worker has called me and my family names she came into my home split me and now my ex boyfriend up and then took our first born please help me are social services carupped, twisted gits, baby snatchers. ❤️❤️❤️?❤️❤️❤️
Can I reverse an adoption of a child out of my wife’s first marriage.
The child is now 50 years old , and has not visited us for the last few years.
She has more contact with her real father who left her and her mother when she was 7 months old then with the adopted father .
If the child wanted it and the biological father wanted to adopt it is possible. It primarily depends on the reasoning though, as well, if everyone doesn’t agree to do this.
I live in Asheville nc and Dss made me give my rights over so the kids can get adoption the whole 4 years be for singing my right away was bad we did everything that they wanted us to do and still had to sign our right over to foster care and the kids any adopted yet but I was wondering there was any way to get my rights back if I can prove there was fal play in the whole case.
My children were in foster care, my oldest daughter adopted them3. The day the adoption was finalized, we all celebrated the family being reunited. Later that day me and the kids went home to my place, where they’ve been to this day… I recently went to visit my oldest daughter and noticed some mail with the kids name on it, and realized the she’s been getting income for them since 2011…. I didn’t know who to call r what to do… Something’s wrong, or illegal here. Help!!!!
Who was fostering the children, was it your daughter? Normally the person that is fostering the kids can receive payment from the state. So if that is the situation, it would be normal.
If I read that right your daughter adopted your children who were in her care via foster?
If that’s true and you all celebrated the family together again and you took the kids home as if they’re still yours then you are the one top acting illegally. Your daughter adopted them and she is to have them. Sounds like she’s still collecting their adoption subsidies as if she was caring for them still… as the judge and state ordered.
You all will get in trouble.
Hello my name is LaShelle Monique Smith and I’m currently dealing with a story similar these innocent parents as well as myself. My now 2 year old son has now been adopted and my 1 year old . To begin with my children was legally kidnapped by cps worker looking for bonuses and profits which they snatched my children. I still hold all the altered records from these caseworker and I’m still currently looking for a way to have the adoption reversed, because it was public corruption that took my rights in the first place. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
We live in Texas. My daughter had a baby boy July 17th of 2019. We started talking to agency about adoption, when she was about eight months pregnant. My daughter didn’t have a home or job and I was not able to take her into my home. She had a really ruff delivery. After hours of labor, she had to have a emergency C Section. She had lost so much blood, she was given a blood transfusion. The agency’s representative came to hospital with adoption paperwork. She said, a lawyer would be calling her to go over the adoption paperwork and told us, we would have to leave while she talked to the lawyer. I personally, found that to be very strange. We were allowed to return to the room, after the call ended. My daughter signed the papers and the agencies rep asked us to sign as witnesses. Within 24 hours, we contacted the agency representative and asked if the adoption could be stopped. The agency rep. told us, she gave up her rights to the baby and nothing could be done. We have cried many many tears, about not bringing that sweet baby home. My daughter has asked over and over, why within a 24 hour span, of signing those adoption papers that the adoption couldn’t be stopped. Is there anything we can do, to reverse the adoption in Texas. Looking back at the time she signed the adoption papers, I do believe she felt like she didn’t have a choice, since she had talked to a adoption agency. I don’t think any of us, were thinking clearly about what was happening. In fact, she had to stay in the hospital longer, due to loosing so much blood and very high blood pressure. She also signed, when she was having to alternate Hydrocodone and Ibeprophen to help with the C Section pain. Is there anything, we can do?
Here’s the case I’m the biological mother of my son who is adopted in another state since birth due to me not knowing who the father was. A potential father would like to see if he’s the father, if so he wants the son back and currently has an older son. He keeps running into the problem of how to go about the situation and if its even a possibility to get his son back he really cares about his kids and think it would be the best interest of the child to be with him and his older brother. the Child has been with the adoptive parents about months now and the potential father just found out. Biological parents reside in Oklahoma and child and adoptive Parents reside in Pennsylvania any information would help thank you!
I am wanting to know if a reversal is an option for me when I adopted my three daughters I was married and had two incomes however my now ex husband is serving 25 years in prison for 3 counts of sexual assault on a child an I just financially can not support these children on my own
Legally, the court views you as though you are biologically their mother. The problem here is where do these kids go? Dad is in prison, and it sounds like the biological mother either signed off and gave consent, or is gone. If the biological mother or family doesn’t want to adopt the kids, the kids could become wards of the state and end up being placed in foster care. You need to speak with local counsel to get into the specifics of a case complex like yours.
Kylie,shut up and don’t be so tunnel visioned.
Can a CO DHS adoption be reversed? The adoption was final in 2015. If so, how?
Too many details to go into on the internet, just need to know if this is possible.
Thank you
I would like to know if the adoption can be reversed by the birth father n r visition to c the his daughter
I live in Indiana. I made a huge mistake in giving up my parental rights up. Meaning I allowed my child to be adopted. I want my son back! I raised him for 9 years and he just turned 10. Please is there anyway I can get this reversed? What can I do?
I was adopted in 2017. I just turned 18 a couple of months ago. My adopted mother has a restraining order on me with lies. I need to know how to reverse the adopted so i can cut all ties to her. I dont want her being able to have anything of mine. When i was adopted she changed my name. She has my new social security card and refuses to give it to me. I got my birth certficate in the mail without a return address but i know it was from her. What do i do?
Is it too late for a child who, has been adopted for almost four years, to request to be taken out of the care/home of adopted parents because the relationship between child and parents just hasn’t worked out?
Kylie, I agree with Kipper. Until u know someones sitiation you can’t say that
As far as i know and I am a firm believer ” everyone deserves a second chance”.
I was lost in drug addiction for many years. A lot of time went by and many miss courts later my mother seems to be adoptions my 3 kids. (IN the process) I made a complete 180 on my life and now have a great paying job and my home situated is permanent and stable. I want my kids back and everyone including child services and the kids attorney are saying I cannot get my kids back. I’m a 31 year old man that’s repented 100% and I have no mental health issues or anything hendering from getting my kids back. PLEASE! I’m seeking counsel or help! If there’s a slight chance I WANT MY KIDS BACK!! Thank u…
Hello, my name is Brian, my son was born and adopted without my knowledge or consent, and I had made it clear to the mother from the beginning that if she did not want to keep the baby, that I would take him full time. I did not even get to meet him, and I would really like to raise my child, i believe i can give him the life he deserves, like my dad did for me. Do I even have a chance to get the adoption reversed?
How do I start the process to dissolve an adoption in Florida? I am the adoptive parent who can no longer meet the child’s needs. I was assaulted by the child, threatened, property damage, and the child speaks of suicide. The police threaten me with child abandonment if I don’t take him back in but it’s a ticking time bomb. I need help!
I need help reversing adoption I made a mistake by signing some paperwork and I want my son back
I have an odd one. I’m 50 yo. I became an emancipated minor at 16, and then authorized my own adoption to a young couple who took me in (certainly coerced and they actually weren’t that much older than me in the big picture). This was Seattle/King County court in 1985. In truly dramatic teenage fashion, I even changed my name and had the record sealed. I Haven’t seen or heard of these people in many years and started using my real name again in my early 20s.
I would love to nullify that adoption if it was easy to do. I honestly don’t know what the judge must have been thinking when he signed off on this. How feasible does this sound.
So the adoption was done in Jan of this year. The biological mother has had the son on an off for the last several months. The father was never giving notived of guardianship an then he lost his case cause he lacked somethings. What are Michigan laws on this and the adoptive mother leaving the child tmwith the biological mother for days on end? An how can this be healthy for the child
I am a child of adoption and I can attest that there are times when adoption is a good thing. If a child, however, is put in a home in which witchcraft has been done to them and I do mean WITCHCRAFT, an adult adopted child might want out of their situation. I would love for my adoption to be overturn. People who want to be parents ought to be given the right to raise them. If they are capable of loving someone else child. If they cannot love someone else’s child then do not destroy a child’s sense of self for a demon.
Can I do a reverse adoption in Virginia?
I adopted my step daughter and it’s been terrible ever since. How much does it cost to do this if my State allows it?
This depends on a lot of factors, such as what is the relationship with your wife – are you two now divorced? If still together, there could be options whereby the mother only becomes the guardian, but there needs to be some type of significant reasons for something like this, it sounds like it probably is not something that is possible in your case if we’re just talking about a bad situation with an unruly child.
Hiring a lawyer for these types of matters might cost a few thousand dollars, easily, and the chances to obtain the result you are looking for is probably quite slim, unfortunately. Really need to sit down with a local attorney to go over many more details.
My oldest son was taking from me due to the fact that a false report was reported to cys and I have a statement stating that it was not a cps case cuz the mount union school district elementary school nurse called and I ended up in prison for a crime that i didn’t commit as I was sitting in prison…it was never stated in court about adoption. I still have his original birth certificate and social security card . My now 12 son has autism. The quake dr that he sees puts things in head as well as the so called adoptive parents. The first foster family that he went with left their 12 year old daughter take my than 8 year son to the park and he was left there by him self for 3 hours. On all of my court documents as well as his fathers who is currently locked up we both feel like we were forced to give up our rights to our son who has 2 loving parents who love him and he is well taking care of . Can u plz helps us get the adoption reversed and get him back to me
Hello I need to reverse this adoption of my children whom was taking out of my custody and I was lied on by the doctor at the hospital and also Dcfs lied on me to take my rights away I never had a fair Trial
My two daughters and me and their daddy was done the exact same way
When DCFS is involved and parental rights are taken away, many states essentially treat the biological parent as a stranger, which means that they may not even have ‘standing’ to bring a case before the court. Standing is basically the courts way of determining: 1. a harm has or will be caused, 2. if action or stopping an action doesn’t take place, and 3. the harm to be avoided/stopped can be properly addressed before the court.
Many states may view you as not having standing to pursue a case because they no longer view you as any different from any other person in the world that wants to change who that child’s parent is, legally. That is your first hurdle (and it is a big one).
The next step is to find out how you can provide proof of what exactly was inaccurate and incorrect that allowed this to take place.
If someone lied and there is documented proof of that, it may be a reason to take it up with the court as proof of fraud.
Gather all information you have, do some investigative work to show actual proof that lies were told, and hire a lawyer – you need a lawyer here to even stand a chance.
And remember, proof (that is, ‘evidence’), needs to be substantial and clear. It is almost never enough to just say someone lied, but to have proof, in some type of document or other means to show that a lie was told and fraud was committed. Best of luck.
Hi. My name is Chanreth. I currently live in California, but my case is Massachusetts. I would like duress on the adoption case for my daughter back. Her adopted parents are her aunt and uncle. They’ve never took care of her or have my daughter ever lived with them. My daughter lived with me since the day she was born. The adoptive parents led me to believe that they will never physically take my daughter from me if I signed the papers. The adoption was finalized on November 23 2017. I recently found out that the papers were signed in 2013. I never signed any papers in 2013. Please help understand how I can fight for my daughter back. I’m desperate.
Reversing an adoption is not right
Kylie, you don’t know people’s circumstances to judge them. Sometimes reversal is literally the only option for everyone’s safety. I am dealing with an adoptive parent who has been physically accosted, had bones broken, and has almost been killed when the adopted child attacked her while they were driving. That is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the child’s behavior, and there is nothing left that the parent can do. She is in constant danger and the child is getting bigger – and worse – by the day. Many adoption agencies lie about the child’s behavior and background to get him/her out of the system. THAT’s “not right.”
Going through this right now, I am fearful of my adopted child hurting a sibling or myself.
Or what about if the childs adoptive people are way too mean and never listen to the kid. And if the childs adoptive person is a pedophile like mine is they should be able to req for an unadoption
That is so true…..I’m trying to get an reversal for my adoptive son
What’s not right is loving a child and doing all that you can for the child and they go tell lies and get your other foster children removed after her adoption is final. What’s not right is having your name drug through the mud from trying to love someone unconditionally. What’s not right is people who have no idea judging you for what you are doing. If you have no idea what’s is going on then you have no right leaving a reply.
Yes it is if your not adopted or have not been in a situation where it is the right decision to make then shut up
Yes it is, in certain cases! The adoption and social/worker’s have munipulate the poor, and under privileged, minority parent’s, to “make sure”, that they lose their families, to enrich themselves with our loved ones, for a long time now! They’ve always had hidden deceptions, break African Amercan families apart, and then everyone else’s!! The lies that they tell, how far they go to make sure, you can never see your family again!! We love our family!! And cant wait til we see them again!! But just recently i read an Adoption article, about Michigan’s Adoptions Practices, after WWII, that blew another hole in my soul!! And it was like the harshes realities of what they promoted!! They had their way with poor people, and they’re still doing it today, just in another uniform! It’s the worst that can happen to someone who love’s their family. I will never stop longing for my grandchildren, because they think i shoul!! And i pray for all the families that got caught up with your family, from all the hidden deceptions, munipulations, and cancellations, that were put on your family, and family tree, just to satisfy other’s, “oh no, not just for the children”, just because they could!!! I pray that God see the families who are longing to see and love their families, and restore them that deserve it! I pray that God review and revise, the Michigan Child Protection Act. I pray that The Parental Rights Laws in Michigan, be changed immediately! I pray that God look upon the familes who has been tormented and permanently separated from their families, especially the one’s at the Border! I pray that God see the love of the parent’s, who, truly, love their children. And i also pray that God take away the gavels,from Family Court judge’s, who dont deserve them!! In Jesus name, Amen!
What if the mother lied about being unable to find or not know who the father was to ask for consent. What if the child was told by the mother she didn’t know who the father was to keep him from knowing about the adoption? Is that still wrong!?!? I would have NEVER allowed my daughter to be adopted as I would have taken care of her myself if I knew her mom was too busy doing drugs
This is called fraud. You will need some serious documentary proof that fraud was committed and to show the court that she could have easily gotten a hold of you. This needs to be documented – not “we have some similar friends”. It needs to be along the lines of; lived at same address for years (and she knows), parents live at same address, so she could have contacted you there, maybe you both have mutual friends on facebook, she knows where you work, your phone number has not changed, she’s called/texted/emailed you around the same time as she claimed she didn’t know where you were, etc.
Please elaborate to me why you feel reversal adoption is not right???? I would love to discuss.