What happens when both parents want custody of their child in divorce? If they cannot come to a mutual agreement of shared custody, the final decision will end up in the judge’s hands. Realize, if you really want to win, every aspect of your child’s life must be given a priority. To give you a better idea of what you will need to do to win your case, you can start here:
- Documenting Time with Children – this may seem a bit silly, but start taking pictures when you are spending time with your children. Nothing will tell the story more than a lot of pictures of you and your children together. From a family dinner to doing homework to a day at the park, capture them all.
- Education Comes First – if you are not already taking an active role in your child’s education, you better start now. And, this is about more than just doing homework with them after school. You need to introduce yourself to the children’s teachers and keep an open line of communication with them. You want the teachers to be able to give an honest and very positive evaluation of you if asked by the court.
- Take Interest in Social Activities – is your child spending hours staring at the TV or playing video games or is he or she active in after school activities and sports? Take the time to find out what interests your children, other than video games, and keep them active. This is about more than getting them off the sofa because it shows an active interest in their social development and overall health.
- Continue to be a Good Parent – are you more interested in being your child’s parent or being his or her friend? Unfortunately, for many parents going through divorce, it is the latter. The rules cannot go out the window in the middle of a divorce because it will weaken your position with the courts. Even more so, it will ultimately negatively affect you and the relationship you have with your children.
- Appearances – don’t give your ex any ammunition to use against you in court. Look at your “life” and the things your ex or other people are or could say negative things about in court. Do you go out too much? Do you drink too much? Are you considered openly promiscuous? You also need to avoid confrontations and being difficult with your ex.
- Communication with Ex-Spouse – things need to be kept civil, especially around and about the children. For instance, if you want to do something for the children, if you want to attend parent/teacher meetings, or want to see the children’s school records, and are told no, make a formal request in writing to document his or her refusal of cooperation. Do your part to keep the peace and leave being difficult and uncooperative up to your ex.
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