Many people assume that once divorce documents have been filed, one of the parties in the marriage is required to move out of the couple’s marital home. This is in fact not a requirement though one of the spouses can move out if he or she chooses to do so. The soon-to-be exes can both remain in the marital home during their divorce proceedings with one notable exception – if the cited reason for divorcing is irreconcilable differences, they must live apart even if they are residing under the same roof.
Tips for Living Together Through Divorce
For some couples, remaining in the same home during a divorce is necessary for financial reasons, but if domestic violence is an issue or the couple remaining in the same home causes emotional distress for any children they have, the couple should speak with their attorneys about available options to help protect themselves and their children. Although living in the same home during a divorce is not ideal, there are some tips that can help make remaining under the same roof more bearable:
Household Expenses – During a divorce where the couple is still living together, it is important that they still maintain the household’s expenses. This means the couple must allocate the expenses by an agreement or a court order.
Living Space – In order to still qualify for a “no-fault” divorce, it is important for the soon-to-be exes to establish separate living spaces. Make sure to create a physical divide between living spaces.
Personal Living Expenses – When going through divorce proceedings, all personal expenses should be kept separate. Should one of the spouses be considered the “stay at home” parent and does not have his or her own income, that spouse’s attorney can enter a Temporary Support Order to obtain financial support.
Household Chores – Should the grounds for the divorce be irreconcilable differences, it is important to stop performing household tasks and chores for the other spouse. This includes activities such as cleaning his or her living space, doing his or her laundry, cooking for him or her or having meals together. This is only encouraged when it helps maintain a level of normality for any children the couple has.
Parenting – It is important to ensure a parenting schedule is established between divorcing parents that allows both parties equal time alone with the children they have together. This is also important for the emotional well-being and stability of the children involved in the divorce.